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Some People Stop "Falling in Love" with Age.
Posted on 5/18/25 at 2:04 am
Posted on 5/18/25 at 2:04 am
I don't know what's happened, but in my late teens and 20s, I'd always be crushing over some chick, excited, butterflies and all. Since my mid 30s, it just went somewhere. Lust and horniness are still there, but that pure innocent romantic feeling of butterflies and that feeling is gone somewhere.
I don't care to watch romantic movies or listen to love songs. It is puzzling to me, cause I haven't had any bad breakup or trauma that I'm "recovering from", just kinda being busy with my job which has been going great. Maybe it's overall experience that dminished my feeling of that love chemical.
I even looked up recent pic of my HS/college crushes that I've not seen in 15 years to see if it brings something up, but it doesn't. Girls I liked were good, wife material, but I don't think I can really be in love with them like I did back then.
Maybe it's a good thing to become numb like that, but I wonder if I'm missing out. Or maybe I'm subconsciously dodging drama or maybe I'm just happy where I am right now.
Anyone else had a phase like that?
I don't care to watch romantic movies or listen to love songs. It is puzzling to me, cause I haven't had any bad breakup or trauma that I'm "recovering from", just kinda being busy with my job which has been going great. Maybe it's overall experience that dminished my feeling of that love chemical.
I even looked up recent pic of my HS/college crushes that I've not seen in 15 years to see if it brings something up, but it doesn't. Girls I liked were good, wife material, but I don't think I can really be in love with them like I did back then.
Maybe it's a good thing to become numb like that, but I wonder if I'm missing out. Or maybe I'm subconsciously dodging drama or maybe I'm just happy where I am right now.
Anyone else had a phase like that?
This post was edited on 5/18/25 at 2:07 am
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Posted on 5/18/25 at 2:10 am to PoppedRiser
K alter..
Posted on 5/18/25 at 2:17 am to PoppedRiser
When it's not your first rodeo you're a lot more realistic. It's harder to idealize someone. You know going in that they're not perfect and that you, and they, are both dragging a lot of baggage behind you.
But a guy I used to work for is getting remarried at 75. So it still happens
But a guy I used to work for is getting remarried at 75. So it still happens
Posted on 5/18/25 at 2:29 am to Jim Rockford
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When it's not your first rodeo you're a lot more realistic. It's harder to idealize someone. You know going in that they're not perfect and that you, and they, are both dragging a lot of baggage behind you.
But a guy I used to work for is getting remarried at 75. So it still happens
Very very valid point. Experience prevents you from idealizing someone, which is essential for that pure feeling of love, which blocks out critical thinking.
That must be it. I realize there will be drama, there will be some degree of disappointment some time down the line when I see her in the morning without makeup. I've gotten good at reading people types and women, so I kinda know what I'll be getting ahead of time.
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K alter..
This post was edited on 5/18/25 at 2:39 am
Posted on 5/18/25 at 4:32 am to PoppedRiser
Are you an incel?
Posted on 5/18/25 at 5:02 am to PoppedRiser
How do you feel when you look at men? Might be getting the gheys?
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:06 am to PoppedRiser
It’s a high probability you are becoming a homosexual
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:11 am to PoppedRiser
I became a vagitarian when I turned 60
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:22 am to PoppedRiser
First loves & young loves are just different. With age and life experience, the numbness will melt away if you find someone you really connect with. You’ll be fine.
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:39 am to PoppedRiser
Low T
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:43 am to Booyow
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I became a vagitarian when I turned 60
Do you have a shirt that tells everyone?
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:44 am to Shooter
Yeah… no joke here… it could be hormonal, which is neither uncommon nor unnatural.
The other thing I will tell you is that love will feel differently for you every time because you’re not the same person you were 10 years ago or even a year ago. Experience changes you. Just be you… and go get your levels checked.
It’s going to be alright!
The other thing I will tell you is that love will feel differently for you every time because you’re not the same person you were 10 years ago or even a year ago. Experience changes you. Just be you… and go get your levels checked.
It’s going to be alright!
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:44 am to SpqrTiger
He said he still likes to frick
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:49 am to biglego
I understood that reference
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:52 am to PoppedRiser
You watched too much porn, so now your brain is scrambled
Posted on 5/18/25 at 7:54 am to PoppedRiser
At some point in my mid to late 20s I quit being optimistic about relationships and started going into them with the expectation that they wouldn't last long. I'd had a couple of rough endings that had been hard on it. Once I awknowledged that I was the problem and worked on that things got better.
Posted on 5/18/25 at 8:41 am to PoppedRiser
I think there is a benefit to marrying “young”.
I married at 21 and have been married over 30 years. I still have the “in love” feeling about my wife. I can understand why, with age, that would diminish as a feeling for folks though.
When you are young you have the hope that can only spring from ignorance which comes along with youth. After the ignorance is gone, you are left with reality, which would diminish that.
I married at 21 and have been married over 30 years. I still have the “in love” feeling about my wife. I can understand why, with age, that would diminish as a feeling for folks though.
When you are young you have the hope that can only spring from ignorance which comes along with youth. After the ignorance is gone, you are left with reality, which would diminish that.
Posted on 5/18/25 at 9:07 am to PoppedRiser
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Ain’t it funny how the feeling goes away?
Don Henley was right I guess
Posted on 5/18/25 at 9:10 am to Charter Embers
Cause there’s more to life than chasing women.
We all want to be loved, but there’s so many ways now to feel loved other than a woman. Get a hobby that loves you back.
We all want to be loved, but there’s so many ways now to feel loved other than a woman. Get a hobby that loves you back.
Posted on 5/18/25 at 9:12 am to PoppedRiser
Love isn’t real baw
Debeers and hallmark got you
Debeers and hallmark got you
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