re: What's your relationship with your dad?

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I’ll never be the father to my children like my father was to me. He was Superman in my eyes.

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Young adult it was #3 as we grew older it end at #4 he passed at 87.

I miss him more everyday man passed me a lot of wisdom I just didn’t know it at the time.

2 when he was alive.

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I work with my Dad. It’s a struggle at times, but we manage it. I’ve stuck by him since my parents divorced many years ago. He cheated on my Mom and he paid the price for a lot of years. He finally found a good woman that’s about to be an RN. My mom remarried to.

He almost died this year of a heart attack but made a full recovery. He’s 66 and my best friend. We really bonded over Alabama football and have got to watch every National Championship game we’ve won, and the three we lost. I love him

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Good stuff. One of the main reasons CFB is followed so passionately is because of family ties. Even when fathers and teen sons do not see eye to eye they can most often still agree on Alabama being better than Auburn or vice versa.

My dad worked for me for 14 years. We weren't in business together, he would not have any part of that. He was an employee. A favored employee for certain, but an employee nonetheless. We never had an issue. Had we been partners I like to think we would not have had any issues but I am probably delusional. It is damned tough generally speaking to be in business with family but if you can make it work it is very rewarding.

My Dad was a great man. He really did a lot for our family and was always there.

He died 4 years ago and I miss him.

Closer to 1 than 2.

My Dad abused me for most of my teenage years. And not in a "he said mean things" way, but in a "I won't hit you on your face so people can't see" way. He was a functional alcoholic for a good chunk of my life. And even though he's now sober, he denies everything and goes as far as to victimize himself because everyone has walked away from him over how he is. He's just a mean, vindictive man.

When my Mom found out she was terminally ill, she made me promise to help take care of him after she died because he was totally dependent upon her. I had to teach him how to cook, clean, pay bills, etc. after she died. Every phone call is him complaining about having to function like an adult, as he should have a long time ago when my Mom needed help. It breaks my heart that my Mom lived with his abuse for so long, but that was her decision to stay even after my brother passed and I moved out.

Probably the worst one was when I went to my parent's house when my Mom was so sick she could barely stand and she was sitting on a chair in the kitchen fixing my Dad dinner (she wasn't eating more than protein shakes at this time) and he was laying on the couch watching football. When I questioned it his response was "Well, I just wanted a home-cooked meal".

There's so much more than that, but I don't have the patience or the time.

I'm not sure I'd piss on him if he was on fire some days.

Long story, short I'm envious of folks with good fathers. If you have one, appreciate him, because they aren't always great.

2.

He's a product of his time and poverty upbringing.

Doesn't treat my mom very well. I've tried to intervene but it only upsets them both.

So I just stay out of it. Figure he is what he is at this point and in his 70s...what's the difference?

Between two and three.

We get along great but that's partially because I live in another state and visit for 4-5 weekends a year plus a weekly phone call to discuss non-agitating topics.

Anything beyond that and the "old dog/new tricks" problem becomes irritating.

He also pissed away all of his money so I'm going to be on the hook for providing for his end of life care and final arrangements. I'm a little bitter about that. Not that I expect or deserve an inheritance but potentially spending all of my hard earned savings to usher him to the grave is going to be a bitter pill to swallow.