re: #MeToo Backlash: Male Bosses Avoid 1-on-1 Meetings w/ Women. No Meetings=No Promotions

My first job out of college was a position embedded in a corporate HR office. There were three men in an office of 30.

There was a girl in the office that was drop dead gorgeous. The company I worked for had your typical executives and some $10/hour types that were a little rough around the edges.

We hired this guy that had just graduated from Vandy with an MBA. The receptionist openly said what she would like to do to him. Openly flirted with him. Unbuttoned her blouse in meetings with him. One day at lunch she was eating something with a spoon and said that he could "use the spoon to eat her pussy." It got to the point where she was making us uncomfortable, but no one said anything. He was hitting it every night - he was cool, and we didn't want to cause any issue.

One day one of the janitors came in - he wasn't all there - and he told her she was pretty and gave her a flower he had picked from outside. She raised enough hell to have him fired.

She and the Vanderbilt MBA were fired a week later. Someone got pissed that she got the janitor fired and went to the VP and told them what she was doing.

This is where I like the glass panels in our office doors. That way I can meet 1-on-1 with females but people can see inside to make sure nothing happens or happened if I get accused.

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She has no clue about the word trust. Why should guys who worked to get where they are risk it all by being accused, not convicted but just accused? The idiot feminists supported psychos like mattress chick and guys took note. Any woman can make an accusation and even if the guy can show video or eyewitness, he can lose his career.

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This.

If we had innocent until proven guilty it wouldn't be an issue. Only way to get burned would be if you really were a creep (Weinstein, C.K., Cosby, etc.)

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Yall should have rolled them. There need to be major severe consequences for that kind of shite for it to go away

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True, but business is about making money and while the public burning of a couple of witches would have scared off other witches it wouldn't have helped our image or improved our sales.

Them being unemployed, without benefits, for at least several months was consequences and it made the company get smarter in defending itself from stupidity...

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I would never have a meeting with a female subordinate without a witness present.

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Okay, but a male subordinate can falsely accuse you as well. This would actually be a lot worse.

Pretty much. In general, guys should avoid any sort of socializing with, friendship with, or mentoring of women where they work or go to school. The risk to your career and reputation from false accusations is too high.

Men ought to start a movement of #notmehoneypot

My HR department requested me to have a meeting with a a lady I manage regarding her outfits. I told HR I would need them in the office with me. No way I was having that conversation without them in my office.

Another male coworker told me he talks on the phone with a former employee of ours. He is in his 40s married with kids and she is single and 26 y/o. Why they were talking is a total mystery. I would never do that nor tell anyone. Asking for trouble Imo