re: YOUR official New Year's resolution thread - will be bumped 12/31/15

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Sometimes it is just one parent that puts the kids ahead of the marriage and that's all it takes to start the demise.

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I would guess it's mostly the woman that does this.

Lose 30 lbs.

I have 2 friends divorcing, with kids at vulnerable ages that know everything that's going on .. rips my heart out ..

Happy New Year, Nurse

Probably just wishful thinking from whatever goob said it.

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will be bumped 12/31/15

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No, it won't.

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I would guess it's mostly the woman that does this

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In my case it was. Been divorced seven years and still keep trouble shooting to determine if I could have done anything different to change the outcome. So far, the answer has been "no". We just simply grew too far apart. Then again, I knew I had a problem when she couldn't even tell someone what I did for our living. Loved her, but have had to learn to let go. Neither of us were happy. The night she left, the kids actually quit fighting each other. Didn't know what to make of that. Oddly, they flipped a coin for their mother's parking spot and the dog called dibs on her side of the bed.

She came by the house about a year back to get something. The dog seemed to be super excited to want to go out and see her, so I let her out. Dog walked up to about ten feet from her and growled at her and then went back into the house. The look on the ex's face was priceless.

Since then, the kids have shown me a couple of pictures of her. She is 56 and looks like she's in her fricking 70's. Don't know what's going on, but glad it's not under my roof.

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I have 2 friends divorcing, with kids at vulnerable ages that know everything that's going on .. rips my heart out ..

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I have a coworker that has faced an incredible amount of loss this year(death of her 3 oldest children) just find out her husband of less than a year is cheating on her. Don't know if they will divorce or not. They have a young child together so my heart breaks for not only my coworker, but her daughter as well. Divorce just sucks and shatters many lives. I really hope I never have to face it personally.



Happy New Year to you as well Rag

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Divorce just sucks and shatters many lives.

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I took it a lot harder than I did the death of my father, who I miss 23 years later.

The hardest thing I have done thus far was being with my kids while their mother told them she was leaving. My son's reaction at the news left me devastated. Even when I think about it now it still hurts. I took the kids on a couple of out of town trips while we tried to re-group as a different family unit. As hard as I tried, I don't think I ever really pulled that off. Still hurts years later. As hard as I have tried, it is a pain that I really can't seem to overcome. Don't know why.