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re: You ever discovered an immediate relative whom you weren't aware of? - Update on Page 6
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:25 pm to Naked Bootleg
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:25 pm to Naked Bootleg
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I had no idea who the mother was. At first, I thought I knew, but I was wrong
quote:Well...did you know her? The way you typed this makes it seem like the timing is "bad" because the statute of limitations hasn't expired
I did find the mom on FB but again, the timing for reaching out to her now is... bad.
Could be a foggy one night stand; could be a poor woman who was just trying to get to her car at night.
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Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:38 pm to WildManGoose
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WildManGoose
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"At first,"
Key detail there
ETA: be nice
This post was edited on 10/14/21 at 3:58 pm
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:43 pm to lsu777
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thats why i dont do the the DNA kit
Idk what the policies are off the various companies, but some of these murders they're solving are by finding someone that's a partial match, as much as 6 generations removed.
And it's usually in a way that they know it's *exactly* that number of generations away, not just "within".
So even if you don't do a test, there's still a potentially large number of people that can do one that eventually outs you, regardless of you not being in the system.
That's part of what's scary/ ethically sketchy about all of these companies (not just ancestry services, but also medical testing) doing DNA testing. They pretty much all have terms in the small print where they get to keep a copy of your DNA forever, and own any resulting IP.
This post was edited on 10/14/21 at 3:48 pm
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:44 pm to Naked Bootleg
(no message)
This post was edited on 12/18/21 at 10:18 pm
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:47 pm to beerandt
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beerandt
Yep exactly. AND, their dna database just grows & grows by the week. It's kinda scary if you think about it.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:56 pm to Naked Bootleg
Posted on 10/14/21 at 3:57 pm to Naked Bootleg
Crazy story. Hope it works out for all parties involved. My best friend did a 23 and me and has discovered 3 half brothers and sisters he never knew about, and finally knows who his real dad is. Super happy for him, he’s gone through years of torment not knowing the truth and had gotten really close with his half siblings over the course of the past few weeks. I’d be scared shitless to do one of these and find like 5 half siblings
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:01 pm to ColdTurkey
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My best friend did a 23 and me and has discovered 3 half brothers and sisters he never knew about, and finally knows who his real dad is. Super happy for him, he’s gone through years of torment not knowing the truth and had gotten really close with his half siblings over the course of the past few weeks.
Was he adopted, or was it an affair situation?
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:14 pm to LaLadyinTx
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Because she didn't want her family to know she had a one night stand and didn't even know his whole name? Rape story gives mom sympathy instead of judgment.
I think this is it, but again, nothing's 100%.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:17 pm to Naked Bootleg
quote:To be fair, you followed that up with
Key detail there
quote:
I thought I knew, but I was wrong
And you keep calling her "the mother" or "the mom" so it isn't very clear in those posts that you actually know this woman.
quote:No judgment here. It seems you're open to, even seeking a relationship, so good on you!
be nice
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:27 pm to WildManGoose
Yeah sorry. And thanks. I added more detail as I was asked questions, that's where it probably got confusing. I knew the mom for a few hours 30 years ago, and honestly probably forgot about her within a month of that night. Life was a mess back then. Only learned who she was through research and then confirming with the daughter. Still have not spoken to her. And yes I badly want a relationship with my daughter, whatever she's comfortable with. But it's been painfully slow-going, just have to stay patient. Figured there were others like me on this great site, but I guess not.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:30 pm to Naked Bootleg
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And yes I badly want a relationship with my daughter, whatever she's comfortable with
You may have said earlier in the thread, but do you have other children with your wife? If so, do they know and what do they think?
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:46 pm to Naked Bootleg
Yep. Found out two years ago that I fathered a son at age 15. No shite. Still haven't met in person. Wife knows. Thinks it's funny as shite. Haven't told either of our sons. Been digesting got two years.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:46 pm to Naked Bootleg
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we hooked up at a camping area
When you wake up with a Pup Tent, that is the best outlet.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:47 pm to jchamil
Wife was trippin' at first but slowly came to accept the situation. Even to the point of asking how's she's doing and trying to coordinate weekend trips to where the daughter lives, so we can meet in person.
We have 3 kids, one is mine from a previous marriage and the other two are my stepson & stepdaughter. All three are pretty lukewarm about it. Not upset, but not like, thrilled. It's funny because my son & stepdaughter are the same age, and my stepson is the same age as my new daughter! And, ugh - the new daughter and stepdaughter's birthdays are the exact same damn day of the year. LOL. Neither one knows this yet. I expect the stepdaughter is going to just love that.... not
We have 3 kids, one is mine from a previous marriage and the other two are my stepson & stepdaughter. All three are pretty lukewarm about it. Not upset, but not like, thrilled. It's funny because my son & stepdaughter are the same age, and my stepson is the same age as my new daughter! And, ugh - the new daughter and stepdaughter's birthdays are the exact same damn day of the year. LOL. Neither one knows this yet. I expect the stepdaughter is going to just love that.... not
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:48 pm to VolunGator
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Yep. Found out two years ago that I fathered a son at age 15. No shite. Still haven't met in person. Wife knows. Thinks it's funny as shite. Haven't told either of our sons. Been digesting got two years.
Hot damn, someone else! How old are you now?
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:48 pm to Naked Bootleg
We may want to talk.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 4:55 pm to SouthEndzoneTiger
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Think long and hard if you are willing to face the possible ramifications of it. I mean think bad. Serial killer, murderer, your parents aren't yours, you have a long lost kid, etc. I
Exactly my position.
The few I've told also initially say to meet. After your point is mentioned everyone back tracks
This post was edited on 10/14/21 at 4:56 pm
Posted on 10/14/21 at 5:01 pm to Naked Bootleg
I'm not how much personal detail I'm willing to post to the internet. I've already disclosed where I live and that I've degrees from two institutions. Hope you are not offended.
Suffice to say he's an adult.
He found me. His mother eventually told him why his last name was different. She told him I knew about but denied him. ALL false.
Suffice to say he's an adult.
He found me. His mother eventually told him why his last name was different. She told him I knew about but denied him. ALL false.
Posted on 10/14/21 at 5:13 pm to VolunGator
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VolunGator
No man, of course not offended. I get it, I've been very careful not to spill any identifiable details. But I'm good with talking if you want to.
This post was edited on 10/14/21 at 5:15 pm
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