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re: When did your wife change?
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:50 pm to TigerFanatic99
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:50 pm to TigerFanatic99
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The day she got pregnant. We've been glorified roommates ever since.
Girls just turned two last week.
Make sure you don’t base your entire relationship on the kid. Took me 15 years to figure it out. Once they get older and you don’t have to entertain them all the time, there will be an awkward void between you and your wife that normally would be taken up by the child. Find time to do things together now so you aren’t strangers when the kids leave.
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Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:52 pm to Tyga Woods
So glad to hear this.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:53 pm to Patfic15
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When did your wife change?
Guess I'm lucky. I don't think she did--at least not in any major way. If she did, it must have been incrementally and in line with any changes I made so as to go unnoticed.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:54 pm to Tyga Woods
In some ways I did the same thing,
It’s hard not too when your baby typically doesn’t go to sleep until midnight
It’s hard not too when your baby typically doesn’t go to sleep until midnight
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:55 pm to Patfic15
I am up to 4+ minute planks and kayaking, no kids, 6 pack coming back. Picket fence and 2.5 kids was never my thing
This post was edited on 12/19/18 at 8:56 pm
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:55 pm to lsucoonass
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It’s hard not too when your baby typically doesn’t go to sleep until midnight
That’s certainly not the babies fault. Who let that happen?
Posted on 12/19/18 at 8:57 pm to Tester1216
The ex
Bc she always goes to bed earlier with me or at my moms
I’ll try to let her cry it out bc she will for a few mins then goes to sleep. Yet the ex would always tell me not to let her cry.
Then again according to her I never do anything right. Tired of walking on eggshells and I had to make a change
Bc she always goes to bed earlier with me or at my moms
I’ll try to let her cry it out bc she will for a few mins then goes to sleep. Yet the ex would always tell me not to let her cry.
Then again according to her I never do anything right. Tired of walking on eggshells and I had to make a change
This post was edited on 12/19/18 at 9:00 pm
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:02 pm to Tester1216
Man this thread actually makes me feel better
Not because I'm much better off, but because other people are surviving the same shite
Not because I'm much better off, but because other people are surviving the same shite
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:04 pm to LSU Tigershark
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Mine are 2 and 3. We're basically in a not-for-profit business partnership at this point, but it's getting better.
Man, in about 8-10 years you're going to be hanging around a couple who have kids the ages of your kids now and wonder how in the frick you did it. I never realized it when my kids were young but to watch other people deal with it? People who I associate as being calm, cool, and collected becoming scattered and stressed out by a couple of lil crumbcatchers really woke me up to how much easier things are when they get older.
Teenage years suck but at least you can keep some independence and get consistent time by yourself or QT with the wife.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:04 pm to Pettifogger
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Not because I'm much better off, but because other people are surviving the same shite
A tale as old as time...
But there is so many regrets I have in past relationships. Maybe some may actually take it info and find a little bit of happiness.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:06 pm to lsucoonass
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It’s hard not too when your baby typically doesn’t go to sleep until midnight
Newborns and infants are tough until they start sleeping.
Then they become toddlers and you’re always chasing them around, which fills your day
Then they get into baseball. And football. And basketball. And Boy Scouts. You never have to worry about having something to do because you’re always shuttling kids from school to practice to games. Fight em to do homework and eat dinner. Clean the house. Go to bed. Repeat. You don’t really have to find things to do or talk about with your spouse because there isn’t time and you’re exhausted. Then one day, he gets his drivers license. He can drive himself to school and practice. He drives himself to hang out with friends. He can help do things around the house. Suddenly, you have more free time than you’ve had in a decade and a half and the person that sleeps right next to you is a complete stranger and have absolutely nothing to talk about.
It’s easier to do preventative maintenance on the relationship now than to try and do a complete overhaul years down the road. Make time.
Sorry for the rant
Your boi Tyga has been through some stuff this yearThis post was edited on 12/19/18 at 9:07 pm
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:12 pm to Patfic15
My wife and I's interests have just diverged over the years. When we were dating, some of my friends didn't think it was a good fit...maybe they saw the people we were destined to become before we did.
We get along pretty well and can definitely have a good time together still but it's the regular, every day grind where we enjoy different things. It's led to us spending most evenings chilling in separate rooms, doing our own things. I don't want to be upstairs watching The Voice or some shitty crime show and she doesn't want to be downstairs while I listen to music she can't stand and dick around on the internet or watch some "weird" show. It's healthy, in a way, because we have space. On the other hand, too much space and you lose connection.
We get along pretty well and can definitely have a good time together still but it's the regular, every day grind where we enjoy different things. It's led to us spending most evenings chilling in separate rooms, doing our own things. I don't want to be upstairs watching The Voice or some shitty crime show and she doesn't want to be downstairs while I listen to music she can't stand and dick around on the internet or watch some "weird" show. It's healthy, in a way, because we have space. On the other hand, too much space and you lose connection.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:13 pm to Tyga Woods
Glad you figured that out.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:13 pm to Gaston
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She got way more into sex at about 37.
Mine is 36 now
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:14 pm to Tyga Woods
Same here
Hoping my divorce gets finalized soon
Hoping my divorce gets finalized soon
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:15 pm to Patfic15
Kids. She had a touch before, but went off the deep end after kids. Zoloft helps.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:16 pm to Tester1216
I was married 17 years. Been divorced 4 years. It’s easy to get into a rut and grow apart. You have to fight that if you love each other. You have to make time for each other by yourselves. Put the romance and the spark back into it. It’s both people that have to realize that you are drifting apart and work on getting back together. Easy to fall into the trap and it’s too late before you realize it.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:17 pm to mmmmmbeeer
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Man, in about 8-10 years you're going to be hanging around a couple who have kids the ages of your kids now and wonder how in the frick you did it. I never realized it when my kids were young but to watch other people deal with it? People who I associate as being calm, cool, and collected becoming scattered and stressed out by a couple of lil crumbcatchers really woke me up to how much easier things are when they get older.
Very true. You would think that because you've already raised young kids you'd be somewhat immune to them but when I see couples with small kids now it blows my mind that I used to deal with all that.
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:19 pm to Tester1216
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Glad you figured that out.
Better late than never, right?
Posted on 12/19/18 at 9:24 pm to mmmmmbeeer
What the hell is all this talk about shared interests, for centuries husband and wife never had the same interests and functioned perfectly fine.
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