re: Update pg. 7: How to handle a girl that worships her father

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She will expect you to act like her dad and she will treat you like she treats her mom.

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So fricking true.

Ah yes. I had this conversation with my first wife. Mine went about like yours. Her dad is a great man as well.

But, in the same breath my ex hates my mother with a passion. That's how you can test her, start talking about the things that your mom does for you and your dad. If she reacts in a negative fashion then cut ties.

I have the exact opposite problem. Mine absolutely hates everyone in her family besides her dad. Thinks everyone is out to get her

To all of you "if the wife is happy, then I'm happy" frickers, you're full of shite!

Like I told a male "marriage counselor" that admitted to being on his 3rd marriage and being a former alcoholic. He was telling my wife and I about how marriage is all about compromises. He used the example from his marriage of his wife wanting to repaint their kitchen/dining area. He said he hates to paint, but agreed to paint it for her. She picked out 3 or 4 different colors, and he painted a small area of the kitchen with a sample of each one and gave her a week or so to decide which one she wanted. She chose a color and he painted it. Two weeks later, she tells him that she doesn't like the color, and wants to paint it a different color. So he repaints it. A month later, she tells him she doesn't like it and wants another color. And he does it!

I say, "Wait, hold on here. You hate to paint, yet you repainted a kitchen 3 times because she couldn't make up her mind?" He says, "Yes, to make her happy. It's compromise." I said, "That's not compromise. That's you being hen-pecked and giving her anything she wants at your expense. I may have repainted it the 2nd time after much bitching and complaining, but I'll be damned if I would have painted it a 3rd time."

That was the end of that session.

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I may have repainted it the 2nd time after much bitching and complaining, but I'll be damned if I would have painted it a 3rd time."

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The correct answer

Wait until she compares you to her dad again. When she does, stop whatever you are doing, drop whatever is in your hands, and tell her that you have asked her to stop doing that. Ask her if she has enough self control to accomplish this small task and let her know it is a deal breaker for you.

Explain that you have tried to tell her, repeatedly that it bothers you and that you have had a butt full of it. Compliment her dad and let her know the problem is with her, not him.

She will deflect and try to not answer. Be firm and have her make the decision to commit or not.

If she is unable, work the deal to become friends with benefits since she is an eager banshee crossfitter on crack in the bedroom.

I also think it would be helpful for her to read this thread so she can see how important this is to you. Before she reads it though, can you post some more about what a tiger she is in the sack? She will find that complimentary.

Good luck.

Dump her.

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If the OP is anything like his post on here in real life I fully understand why his SO wants to change him. He claims to know shite, then once you question him on it he gets defensive. He is probably the same way with his gf. He probably knows he's the cause of the majority of the issues and thats why he won't leave.

See how little he actually answered here. Hopefully his gf knows his name and reads this thread. This would be the most epic thread in a long time if she popped in to defend herself. I have a feeling if she would, then this thread would go MUCH differently.

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I have a strong feeling he out kicked his coverage and can't meet the bar she's setting.

It would be beneficial to both to either agree that the bar is set too high or he needs to realize he won't ever be the man she wants him to be.

Either way their relationship is at a fork in the road.

Run