re: Update pg. 7: How to handle a girl that worships her father

Nah, just trying to help him help himself.

All these people saying cut bait and run, much easier said than done, especially after 2 years. Not a single person in this thread would be able to drop someone that quick after 2 years.

Trust me, I was in a relationship for 5 years that I had reservations about throughout. One thing I learned is when you bring up these topics, always preface what you say with "I feel....blah blah blah". It's a psychological trick where she doesn't feel attacked.

They seem to respond better that way. It sounds like she got really defensive, I'm guessing because of the way you brought it up. It's a sensitive subject to her so you have to tread lightly.

That being said. If this is something you absolutely can't live with, and one she absolutely can't compromise, then you need to eventually cut bait. Y'all will always hold it against each other.

But try to talk it out some more definitely.

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She's liable to show up here, she finds the ot funny sometimes. Mods should do me a favor and delete

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I'll bump this daily to be sure she reads it.

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That's where you're wrong kimosabe

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Well I'd say that's pretty cold and childish for something like this. Anything besides cheating, physical violence, and maybe theft or drugs is worth at least talking about like adults.

Those other cases I could definitely leave without a second thought.

I'll give you that one. But we've got a glimpse into her pysche and the prognosis is not good.

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Only really got a good glimpse of the parents hands somehow being involved in everything, including nearly every decision.
People are still asking what the problem is, for starters, it's seeming more and more like she's looking to raise her kids the same, and live the exact same as her parents.
Not saying they did a bad job,
but am I wrong in wanting to take the best of her parents parenting skills, and the best of my parents parenting skills, and combing the ideas? Would this not hypothetically provide the best child?

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Serious question. Did you out kick your coverage?

PS why are you talking a kid

Fml

You are marrying this bish why are you asking us advice if leaving isn't an option on the table

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Update: Can't believe I didn't think to not try to have a conversation on a car ride. Explained how I did not appreciate comparisons, how I respected her father and his relationship with his family. But said that our relationship is not her parents, no matter how perfect it is (her words). How we had different up bringings and would likely have different opinions and that I believe it is crucial to work these out in an appropriate manner. I was promptly shut down, and told her parents relationship is how she wants hers. That's her goal. Then questioned why I was trying to put her parents down when "I don't even know them".. 2 year relationship.. Now riding in silence. 3 more hours. Eta. Whoever claims im not man enough, complaining, etc. I think you would be tired of dealing with this too. So kindly frick off and stay off my thread. I've surprisingly gotten useful information here and I really appreciate it.

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This will not work out. I'm serious. I know 2 years is an investment, but a lifetime is a bigger one. Get out. It will hurt, but get out.

I'm a woman by the way.

WTH.