re: The married and not having sex check in thread

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We're only approaching 4 years so I can't speak for 15-20+ year marriage folk. But we still do it just about every day, sometimes multiple times if we have time during our kid's nap or in the morning.

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Been married 19 years, together for 21. I'd be lying if I said we had nearly as much sex now compared to at 4 years, but we don't have a sexless marriage by any means, or a special occasion type of marriage either.

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My marriage greaty improved when I realized having more sex and doing less housework made my husband happier I used to try and do it all and had no energy left for sex. So I prioritized sex and he started doing more housework. Win/Win

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let me guess, he magically began meeting your emotional needs? (Whatever the f that means )

Amazing post.

I know she’s not. And she feels bad about it. But it was. Change we had to make….

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let me guess, he magically began meeting your emotional needs? (Whatever the f that means )

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usually it means asking "hey, how did you day go?" or "why does our kid have a bandaid on his forehead?" or "gee, thanks for picking up my shoes that were in the doorway for the last three weeks."

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If my husband were incapacitated tomorrow I’d stay.

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Completely different issue. Lack of desire for sex or lack of ability for sex are two different things.

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Married people don't have sex.

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Yet have more sex than singles study shows...

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This is me

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what about towels? can you rehang a towel?

I will say this bad sex makes up 90% of a marriage
Good sex makes up 10% of a relationship

I’ve been married for 19 years and absolutely have no complaints but I did marry a woman 14 years younger than me.

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I toss it over the shower curtain usually

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that's a novel idea

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I guess my wife changes those out every once in a while

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unless the little elves magically appear at your house