re: Supporting nieces and nephews

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Any suggestions on how you’d handle this type of situation?

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As always, just talk to them like adults. Explain your stance and why you want to do it. And make it crystal clear that you want to do this for her, and not to help them out. Maybe that way they won't take it as charity for them, but rather for their little girl. I would also do some research beforehand (like see what paperwork it would entail, or if you'd just give them the money and they would pay the school, etc.) and have everything worked out and ready to go when you talk to them.

Also, let them know that this is just to help out right now, and you can revisit it next year. Not saying they would, but you wouldn't want them to expect you to pay for her school forever.

But just talk to them about it and be honest with where you're coming from and how much you care about their daughter. I feel like most people would at least relate to that and understand. Also, prepare to try to convince them to let you do it. If they are good people they will say no over and over.

Good on you, man. And good luck.

This is all really good advice. The tuition owed is after insurance is factored in.

I contacted the school and we are working on a way to put a scholarship together for her.

Thanks for all the great responses!

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Any suggestions on how you’d handle this type of situation?

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100% anonymous scholarship. Have the school claim they found some kind of special needs scholarship. The parents don't need to know who did it.

Children are wonderful, adults are shitty. If the parents know you paid for it, then they may come to expect you to do this every semester. You may be in a good financial situation now, but you never know what the future holds.

Give them a check and never mention it again. Great job by the way.

Her parents might be embarrassed by their current situation and too proud to ask for help. However, they will most likely be very appreciative of your offer.

Parents often have to swallow their own pride for the benefit of their kids.