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re: Suicide attempt thread sparked a question in my head
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:08 am to MBclass83
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:08 am to MBclass83
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Having been thru this, I can say your parents are enabling her and boyfriend, which can contribute to her likely death.
I'm more worried about it contributing to my parents' deaths.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:12 am to Azranod
Maybe but your sister needs to go backpacking. Get her arse in the car and take her to the mountains and seperate her from the world for a couple of months. Might help, but addictions forever change people and its sad that they can be lasting.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:15 am to Azranod
Kidnap parents and take them to an AA meeting. Or Al Anon
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:26 am to SwampTrash
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What part of crackhead prostitute is appealing to you
The price maybe...
Posted on 6/21/17 at 10:46 am to Azranod
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I have talked with the cops several times, and am always told that my parents must make the reports or file charges, as it is their property.
My Dad says he has filed the reports, but I believe my mother is always talking him down.
You are screwed man. I am sorry. Every junkie NEEDS an enabler. I have a 41 year old meth head family member. He is a turd and is sucking away all of the joy his mother will ever have in the short time she has left on Earth. Her husband passed suddenly a few years ago, and she is too old school to ever remarry. He uses his daughter to mooch money off of her. It is terrible.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:46 am to Mo Jeaux
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Sometimes you can catch them at a point before the drugs take a toll.
I believe that threshold has been passed by when she started sucking dick for crack
Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:49 am to Barneyrb
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You can't help a drug addict, alcoholic, or any other addiction until they want help. They are they ones that have to make that choice.
I've watched enough episodes of intervention to say that this is it. The parents need to stop enabling...how has their behavior fixed things thus far? As my man Jeff Van Vonderen says "we're not going to love you to death".
I also get the sense you might come from a pretty religious family. Religion cannot fix addiction.
This post was edited on 6/21/17 at 11:51 am
Posted on 6/21/17 at 11:58 am to Azranod
Any chance you could convince your parents to talk with a professional about your sister for advice on how to deal with her? Maybe hearing what they should be doing from a counselor would convince them.
My aunt continuously bailed out her son from debt etc... due to a drinking and gambling addiction. He was in rehab a bazillion times, but it never worked out. He didn't have the desire to quit. He died with an empty bottle in bed with him. I had to cut ties with him after a period of time. It was outside of my control as far as helping him and it was harmful to me to keep trying. I regret that he couldn't overcome it. He was too far gone, but I don't regret discontinuing trying to help him. He knew I was there if he tried. He knew he would have my support. Sad story. Such a great guy.
My aunt continuously bailed out her son from debt etc... due to a drinking and gambling addiction. He was in rehab a bazillion times, but it never worked out. He didn't have the desire to quit. He died with an empty bottle in bed with him. I had to cut ties with him after a period of time. It was outside of my control as far as helping him and it was harmful to me to keep trying. I regret that he couldn't overcome it. He was too far gone, but I don't regret discontinuing trying to help him. He knew I was there if he tried. He knew he would have my support. Sad story. Such a great guy.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:10 pm to Azranod
No, life is precious. Not according to the left, but life is fricking precious.
Suicide is a long term solution to a short term problem.
EVERY HUMAN has value, and while your sister has clearly lost her way, it is more than likely the drugs that have caused all this.
Your sister is still in there underneath this cloud of drugs. Can she get out? yes, Will she? That all depends on her.
Sounds like she has burned all of her bridges. Some people hit rock bottom and bounce back up. If you feel you should wash your hands, I think most would feel that is justified. I would not sever ties with my parents just to ensure severing ties with your sister. All this being said, if something permanent happens, will you be saddled with a life time of guilt for non-action? or do you truly feel you have done your job and tried to support? (PS not implying either way, I know nothing of the situation, just throwing out food for thought.)
Here is to hoping for good luck.
Suicide is a long term solution to a short term problem.
EVERY HUMAN has value, and while your sister has clearly lost her way, it is more than likely the drugs that have caused all this.
Your sister is still in there underneath this cloud of drugs. Can she get out? yes, Will she? That all depends on her.
Sounds like she has burned all of her bridges. Some people hit rock bottom and bounce back up. If you feel you should wash your hands, I think most would feel that is justified. I would not sever ties with my parents just to ensure severing ties with your sister. All this being said, if something permanent happens, will you be saddled with a life time of guilt for non-action? or do you truly feel you have done your job and tried to support? (PS not implying either way, I know nothing of the situation, just throwing out food for thought.)
Here is to hoping for good luck.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:53 pm to Balloon Huffer
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I would not sever ties with my parents just to ensure severing ties with your sister.
I agree with this and it would only make matters worse for your parents. They would lose you and your brother while feeling they need to help your sister. I can understand, however, not wanting your children around your sister if she exhibits unhealthy behavior around them or the like, but that's not the same as cutting all ties with your parents.
The problem with addicted folks is that sometimes, you can't help them and sometimes, it's better to cut ties with the caveat that if they decide to seek help, they know who will support them in that challenge. Like I said, my cousin knew I was there if he went for help and continued to try afterward. I took a week off work at a relatively new job to attend family week at one of his stints. Even after I cut ties, when I heard he was back in rehab, I wrote him a letter of support. He told folks he went in of his own choice. I found out later that wasn't the case, sadly, and he went right back to his old ways upon getting out. That was his last rehab after many.
I loved him and I was crushed when he passed away so young, but I have no guilt. I, along with his family and siblings tried hard to help him. Eventually, we had to give up and pray he would be able to overcome it. Some people just can't and I believe he was one of those who simply couldn't beat it. It was like terminal cancer in him. He was too far gone.
Posted on 6/21/17 at 2:57 pm to Azranod
This is a difficult situation. Your parents will eventually have to get to the point where doing what's best for your sister will either be a painful reality for your sister of jail or banishment from them. Sounds like they are enabling her to continue in this destructive lifestyle. Until your sister truly wants to change and has a genuine, nothing anyone can do will ever help her.
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