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re: Recommend a book on parenting little kids
Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:31 pm to tadman
Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:31 pm to tadman
The Bible is a good book to start with.
I'm going to be quite honest, it really isn't that hard:
1. Do your best to stay married. Show your kids how a marriage is supposed to be, a loving, caring give and take relationship. You're going to be mad at each other, that's part of it but come to a common ground and don't fight in front of your kids.
2. Don't be your kids friend, they don't need more friends, they need parents who set boundaries and are a good role models, you act like an arse hat, guess what, so will they. You can be friends when they are grown.
3. Do not threaten, follow through with what you say, especially when they are young, once you've set a precedent that you don't mean what you say, when they are pre teens or older it's too late and they won't listen to you. Believe it or not spanking when they are young works, not beating, 3 licks on a bare butt does wonders at making a kid straighten up.
4. Demand respect for you and your spouse and others. By no means let the kids rule the roost and talk back.
Why do I say these things and know they work? I have 2 sons, oldest is 24, married has a 1yo son of his own and is a State Trooper, youngest is 19 and studying to be a CRNA, I've been married to the same woman for 30 years. Both of my boys were A students all the way through school, and were great kids, no major trouble at all, never gave me or my wife a reason not to trust them and never got in trouble at school. I've been blessed but also believe how we raised them definitely helped.
I'm going to be quite honest, it really isn't that hard:
1. Do your best to stay married. Show your kids how a marriage is supposed to be, a loving, caring give and take relationship. You're going to be mad at each other, that's part of it but come to a common ground and don't fight in front of your kids.
2. Don't be your kids friend, they don't need more friends, they need parents who set boundaries and are a good role models, you act like an arse hat, guess what, so will they. You can be friends when they are grown.
3. Do not threaten, follow through with what you say, especially when they are young, once you've set a precedent that you don't mean what you say, when they are pre teens or older it's too late and they won't listen to you. Believe it or not spanking when they are young works, not beating, 3 licks on a bare butt does wonders at making a kid straighten up.
4. Demand respect for you and your spouse and others. By no means let the kids rule the roost and talk back.
Why do I say these things and know they work? I have 2 sons, oldest is 24, married has a 1yo son of his own and is a State Trooper, youngest is 19 and studying to be a CRNA, I've been married to the same woman for 30 years. Both of my boys were A students all the way through school, and were great kids, no major trouble at all, never gave me or my wife a reason not to trust them and never got in trouble at school. I've been blessed but also believe how we raised them definitely helped.
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Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:31 pm to tadman
Dr. Jordan Peterson's 12 Rules for Life.
Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:35 pm to tadman
The Bible
Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:36 pm to tadman
Love and Logic Magic. It works. Your little kids will behave.
This post was edited on 8/8/26 at 3:37 pm
Posted on 8/8/26 at 3:40 pm to Celery
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providing safe environments for them to fail, make mistakes, have responsibilities, get hurt, be bored, solve problems, do things for themselves and learn how to deal with it before they turn into helpless adults.
I was and my son (eagle) is now a Boy Scout leader. If you ever wanted to talk to us about creating an environment where you are led/trained and then you have to apply that knowledge in environments that are hazardous, if you are afraid of public speaking, if you can't physically hike/camp/endure the outdoors (my troop helped many that were not prepared).
My take with my son was to allow him to make mistakes, have responsibilities, and do things for himself.
He is a hospice RN and I'm proud of him.
Posted on 8/8/26 at 4:14 pm to nuwaydawg
I can remember times where we allowed our troop to get lost. They would pull out maps, plot where they were and head in that direction. They actually "took a vote". 
The other Scout leader and I intervened and said "There is water over that ridge, that's where you need to go".
I still laugh about "took a vote".
The other Scout leader and I intervened and said "There is water over that ridge, that's where you need to go".
I still laugh about "took a vote".
Posted on 8/8/26 at 6:04 pm to tadman
Read to them every night. Seriously.
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Posted on 8/10/26 at 9:01 am to dek81572
quote:
The Bible is a good book to start with.
I'm going to be quite honest, it really isn't that hard:
1. Do your best to stay married. Show your kids how a marriage is supposed to be, a loving, caring give and take relationship. You're going to be mad at each other, that's part of it but come to a common ground and don't fight in front of your kids.
2. Don't be your kids friend, they don't need more friends, they need parents who set boundaries and are a good role models, you act like an arse hat, guess what, so will they. You can be friends when they are grown.
3. Do not threaten, follow through with what you say, especially when they are young, once you've set a precedent that you don't mean what you say, when they are pre teens or older it's too late and they won't listen to you. Believe it or not spanking when they are young works, not beating, 3 licks on a bare butt does wonders at making a kid straighten up.
4. Demand respect for you and your spouse and others. By no means let the kids rule the roost and talk back.
Why do I say these things and know they work? I have 2 sons, oldest is 24, married has a 1yo son of his own and is a State Trooper, youngest is 19 and studying to be a CRNA, I've been married to the same woman for 30 years. Both of my boys were A students all the way through school, and were great kids, no major trouble at all, never gave me or my wife a reason not to trust them and never got in trouble at school. I've been blessed but also believe how we raised them definitely helped.
These are all really good lessons and this is how life should go. Congrats man, in all seriousness, you have achieved a really good life.
I was looking for a bit more psychological tactics and such when little man throws a fit, when to hold an argument or drop it etc..
But overall big picture you are are right about your biblical 1-4 up there.
Posted on 8/10/26 at 9:33 pm to tadman
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I was looking for a bit more psychological tactics and such when little man throws a fit, when to hold an argument or drop it etc.
Thanks for the kind words, I have definitely been blessed. Now this only works when they are really young and are learning what they can get away with. When I was at home and they wanted something that I already said no to and they threw a fit, I'd give 1 warning, only 1, next time was 3 licks on the bare butt, that normally did the trick. Depending on what it was, I might just let them throw the fit until they got tired and realized that I wasn't giving in and that is the whole trick, don't give in. I did my best not to discipline out if anger, I'm not perfect and I didn't always do that but for the most part I did. I don't recall using any psychological tricks to end arguments, we really didn't have any, my wife and I were the boss and what we said goes, no ifs, ands or buts about it, wasn't anything to argue about. Now once they became teens, we argued about who the GOAT basketball player is, or who's the best NFL team is, fun stuff like that be they never argued or tested our authority when we told them no they couldn't do something they wanted to do, they learned over the years we didn't back down and ment what we said. Probably still didn't give you any psychological tricks but what we did worked.
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