re: Parenting Test of Will

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He doesn't have to eat it tonight, but it'll be waiting in the refrigerator for him at breakfastt tomorrow. He's eventually going to get hungry

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This.

Even geniuses get hungry from time to time.

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find out what he really wants
get it
eat it in from of him
remind him who the boss really is

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This is a good tactic as well. Hell, it might even compel him to learn how to cook his own meals.

Two birds, one stone.

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If he's throwing a tantrum, beat his arse.

If he's simply refusing to eat it, don't worry, if he gets hungry enough, he'll eat it.

My father did both. Eventually I ate what was in front of me because I was hungry

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This.

If he's screaming and throwing a fit and whimpering and crying then muzzle his arse, fist or leather. It's your house and if you don't want to be subjected to all the noise then he needs to shut the frick up.

On the other hand, if he doesn't want to eat, why the frick do you care? That's his problem if he's starving. Don't make him any other food and every time he asks for some just push the leftovers back in front of his face.

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we just finished a game of Monopoly.

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bullshite. No one's ever finished a game of Monopoly.

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So we are in Tennessee for the week. My boy, 9 years old, has been a real pain in the arse all week-bad behavior, attitude problem, etc.

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So, have you asked if something is bothering him?

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The wife made a shrimp and corn soup for dinner. He refuses to eat it.

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I guess he's eaten that in the past?

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I told him he couldn’t leave the table until the bowl was empty. No reheating.

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If you said this, you had better follow thru because if you give in, this tactic will fail miserably every time.

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It is now a test of wills.

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Yep and if you cave, your son has a bigger set than you.

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Anyone else take this experience this with their kids?

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Not at our house.

9 is too late.

You are supposed to shove the puppies nose in the shite when they are ..... puppies.

Call super nanny. You are trying to fix 9 years of your shitty parenting in one night.

Yeah I got a 9 year old and a 7. And a 21.

Sounds like you have let him piss you off.

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If they don’t like something you can’t make them like it.

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Yep

It's completely ridiculous to make a child eat something they clearly don't like.

The only staredowns I have with my kids over food is when it's something new, and they refuse to try it. They have to try it. It's very easy to tell if they truly don't like it or if they're just faking that they don't like something.

If they truly don't like it, they'll have something else of my choosing, but I'm not a shitty arse hole of a parent, so it wouldn't be something they hate the taste of.

I’d karate chop that little ungrateful frick in the throat and make him wish he had eaten that soup

Make that fricker eat water for breakfast

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You're doing it wrong. By forcing him to do something he doesn't want to do, in his mind, you become the reason for the conflict. Instead, let him do what he wants and not eat it. He can then go to bed hungry. When he wakes up in the morning don't feed him eggs and bacon, reheat his dinner from the night before. I guarantee you he'll eat it. It works 100% of the time. Hunger is a real bitch.

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Mine is pretty stubborn. We don’t do the reheat nonsense. She either eats what we eat or go hungry. We don’t keep the old meal, she just gets to choose if she wants to eat or be hungry til the next meal. We aren’t making special meals for her. I do like trying new things, so we will throw her some standard sides if it is something we don’t know if we will even like so she will eat something decent.