I agree, but let’s not pretend our judicial system isn’t biased against the father. Too often are fathers forced by the courts to see their children less for no other reason than to award child support to the mother.

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Posted by JumpingTheShark

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Posted on 6/20/21 at 11:03 am to TigerOnTheMountain

This thread is not devoted to the good faith effort type single dads…

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Posted by IAmNERD

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Posted on 6/20/21 at 11:12 am to MightyYat

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You still don’t just give up on being in your kid’s life.

I agree, but it isn't always as black and white. My wife (no pics), for example, was manipulated to think her dad was abusive prick by her mother her entire childhood. Even moved into battered women's shelters for the sole purpose to not let her dad know where they were (he wasn't abusive).

All this came out later in life when it was discovered my MIL has Borderline Personality Disorder. She's fricking nuts.

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Posted by lsusa

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Posted on 6/20/21 at 11:53 am to dgnx6

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It's better off being a single mother making under 30k because of all the benefits puts your net above someone making 60k. Our system has made it profitable to be a part time worker and a single mother.

Our system has created a labor model that is reliant on Food Stamps, Medicaid, Section 8 housing, EITC and so forth.

Do you really think that a working, single mother of two kids bringing home $2400 a month (which includes CS) wouldn’t rather be working a job that paid her enough to survive without it?

a person who is right on the threshold of the income limit, and has a decision between making $200 more a month vs. losing health care, housing assistance and so forth...that’s not “profit” that is a very basic standard of living.

It’s sucks that we having a “working poor” in this country.

Now if you want to talk about the actual thieves and deadbeats who bilk the system, have at it. There are plenty of women out there living with a husband/boyfriend yet using their mom’s address to apply for benefits...or saying they are “separated” and the husband just pays the mortgage and utilities in lieu of child support (and stops by to father a new child every two years). There are so many “self employed” people who grossly underreport income. There are people who lend their kids SSNs to others to get Food Stamps or EITC.

Alabama is essentially a one party red state. So why did they do away with investigators in the SNAP program? For that matter, when Republicans have controlled congress and held the White House why didn’t they clean all the fraud up?

When it comes down to it, outside of some loons on both sides, the “political class” is a singular group that want to keep the boogeymen on both sides so they can run things to the benefit of themselves and their benefactors.

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Posted by Vote4MikeAck504

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Posted on 6/21/21 at 7:40 am to tigergirl10

Who? Women who don’t want to work and pimp out babies for government paychecks. She’s not responsible. We are. One of my best friends is a New Orleans counselor/therapist dealing with problem kids and organizes family therapy sessions to try to keep kids from continuing their bad behavior and going to jail. The stories she has are insane, sad and frustrating. Anyone who thinks women aren’t out there doing this is naive AF.and it’s literally been going on for generations in many families.

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