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re: moving in prior to marriage
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:10 am to TH03
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:10 am to TH03
quote:
Most things can be boiled down to poor people being dumb and making bad decisions.
which is why its completely disingenuous to lump all of these stats together
the OT is mostly college educated, middle to upper class millennials
we are the successful cohabitators, so its weird to preach about how terrible it is to the OT
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:11 am to redneck
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if you have to "test" living together to make sure the marriage will work you are not with the right person.
For frick's sake. The world isn't black and white. Every couple is different.
If you waited till marriage to live with your wife, and you didn't have major surprises living together, you're right. You two boring assholes were made for each other.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:11 am to TH03
quote:people would be far less likely to have (multiple) kids if they aren’t living together. Better decisions would be made w/o the option of instant gratification (cohabitation and starting a little fake family).
So how is it better if these trashy people get married and then divorce?
And I do think a divorce is probably a better situation than the father of bastard child (with the mothers last name) having the option of just leaving.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:12 am to BRgetthenet
go away
nobody is dumb enough to fall for you shtick
nobody is dumb enough to fall for you shtick
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:14 am to chryso
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You DECIDE to love them. This is what makes marriages last.
OK. That doesn't really rebut what I said. I'm saying you should ideally have more data before making that decision. Nobody buys a house without looking at the inside first. And spare me the "we're talking about people not houses."
I'm not saying moving in together prior to marriage is an absolute pre-requisite, nor that it should make you give up on a person because you found out they load the dishwasher wrong. But learning more about the person and testing the waters to see if you can compromise and make it work isn't a bad idea before you make a lifelong commitment. To completely ignore how you'll co-habitate and just presume that "love will overcome" is a bit rash. We're not living in a Lifetime movie.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:14 am to TheDeathValley
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Think it should be a no brainier to live together first. Would lower divorce rate bigly
Try again bucko. Study after study over the years has concluded that cohabitation leads to higher divorce rates and newer studies show at best it makes no difference.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:16 am to GreatLakesTiger24
quote:
people would be far less likely to have (multiple) kids if they aren’t living together. Better decisions would be made w/o the option of instant gratification (cohabitation and starting a little fake family).
And I do think a divorce is probably a better situation than the father of bastard child (with the mothers last name) having the option of just leaving.
The only real point you made in this rambling is the mother's last name part.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:17 am to Salmon
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Right.
The most important thing in all of this is seemingly socioeconomic status.
The facts are that poor people cohabitate more, get divorced more often, and have children out of wedlock more often.
Low IQ people make poor decisions. This is nothing new.
Most of the past studies that are comparing cohabitation vs non-cohabitation for married couples are adjusting for socio-economic class.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:22 am to Salmon
quote:
nobody is dumb enough to fall for you shtick
You did, baw
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:22 am to TH03
quote:theyre salient... you just don’t like them
The only real point you made in this rambling is the mother's last name part.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:23 am to I Bleed Garnet
By now you've almost certainly bumped uglies so you know you're sexually compatible.
Wait until you're officially licensed to frick before shacking up.
Wait until you're officially licensed to frick before shacking up.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:23 am to Salmon
quote:
the OT is mostly college educated, middle to upper class millennials
Is it?
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:26 am to Tempratt
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Wait until you're officially licensed to frick before shacking up.
Huh?
Does shacking up mean kids?
Who the frick has kids before marriage?
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:27 am to GreatLakesTiger24
Conjecture and opinion =/= factual points.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:28 am to I Bleed Garnet
quote:
Is it?
Yes. It is a selective sample. Not demographically consistent with the rest of the population.
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:28 am to I Bleed Garnet
I'm not officially married but what about moving in with someone you're engaged with?
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:29 am to Salmon
quote:I’m not sure about that
we are the successful cohabitators,
I see people posting about their divorces all the time on here
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:37 am to Displaced
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Yes. It is a selective sample. Not demographically consistent with the rest of the population.
Doesn’t seem like that to me
Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:40 am to Codythetiger
quote:did I meet you Saturday AM?
I'm not officially married but what about moving in with someone you're engaged with?

Posted on 2/6/20 at 10:44 am to I Bleed Garnet
Didn’t we JUST do this thread?
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