re: In-Law Advice Needed

tell them:

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She obviously loves drama

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Actually I can't stand drama. I have put up with these manipulations for years, without saying anything. I don't want my children to see me act like an arse. That's probably my problem. Someone said I should have put my foot down years ago and perhaps they are right.
Dispersed in the mix of insults (I expected nothing less from the OT) was some solid advice. I don't talk about this w anyone, so the feedback is greatly appreciated!
Now I have got some cows to sell! It's going to be a good day for Mercy Farms! Have a great day all!!

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Someone said I should have put my foot down years ago and perhaps they are right.

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I'm always right

You actually have three problems. I'll address in each, ascending in order of importance.

#1. Your inlaws. The behavior you described is incredibly rude, intrusive, and self centered. Obviously. Unfortunately, they're old and they sound like terrible people, but you're never gonna change them. Accept it for what it is. WIth this particular situation you have two choices if they are hellbent on coming: stone wall them, potentially creating a huge conflict, or make the best of the day continuing with your gameday plans, welcoming their participation.

#2. Your husband. Your boy sounds like a big ole bitch. He should be handling this situation from the getgo. My wife and I have a couple of key principles that guide our relationships. First and foremost, we are a team and our team takes priority over either of our families, friends, coworkers, etc, etc, etc. Second, she handles her family drama/BS and I handle mine. Third, united front: on the rare occasion we argue or disagree, we settle things in private.

#3. You. A sign of maturity is not letting others behavior affect the way that you act. In particular, the credit card ordeal sounds like something a bratty teenager would do.

ETA: just saw your response "required such drastic retaliation on my part"

Go forth and be a better person

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don't want my children to see me act like an arse

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its ok, theyve learned to be passive aggressive and pop pills instead!

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I don't talk about this w anyone

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no way... you dont communicate? who wouldve guessed.

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HaveMercy

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Don't worry about these dumbass jealous people on here. Yeah, you screwed up from day one letting your in-laws treat you this way. I had the same problem with my MIL when we first got married but I just don't put up with that shite, I don't care whose feelings get hurt. She knows not to frick with me.

If this was me I would throw a big party with a live band and lots of drinking that weekend. You need to lay down the law on them before they even show up and tell them how it's gonna be and if they don't like it don't come.

Yeah Paige I didn't understand that one either. Not much to be jealous of here.

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three problems

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My herd's not up yet, so I have a little more time...
I can't say I fully disagree with what you said, but I do have to stick up for my husband here. His parents truly are horrible, and I have to cut him and his sister some slack bc they were raised by narcissitic a holes. My husband is great husband and a fantastic father and I wouldn't trade him for anything in the world. The really only difficult area of our marriage is his parents. I have to take some responsibility for not drawing boundaries sooner. Might be TMI, but I lost my mother when I was young and am an only child raised by a horse trainer dad and a maid. So sometime family dynamics are a mystery to me...
As for the CC, in our house using The AMEX for anything other than travel related necessary changes is a no-no. So my passive aggressive hissy fit there didn't involve any charges I certainly couldn't afford to pay.
Still thinking they have got to come on Sunday - heck there are games on Sunday and Monday I'll be missing...
Ok now my herd's about up - I'm out..

My 1st wife's mother was exactly like this. To say she was uppity is an understatement. She ate bacon with a fricking fork. No problems though. I wasn't putting on a show for her or anyone else. She lived local and would show up during LSU away games. She would sit on the edge of the sofa, dressed to the nine, with her tattood make up, high heels, designer dress.....looking mighty uncomfortable, while I was kicked back in the recliner watching the game. I'd always offer her a sammy or a beer and I was always respectful and cordial, but I was not putting on a show. She got the hint eventually.