re: Have you ever had an Ex contact you?

She showed up for dinner?

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She showed up for dinner?

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Yep. Bold, right?

It’s ok. I wasn’t intimidated and was able to nip that nonsense right there.

I dated my very first girlfriend for about 2 years. We were both 16 at the start and in high school, and while the relationship seemed to be going well, she abruptly ended it one day. No reason given, she told me point blank that she just no longer had feelings, and that was that. It was over. (It wasn't my fault, I'd learn over the years; this was her M.O.; she'd get in a relationship with a new guy for 1-2 years and then ghost them for zero reason. She even got married to a guy she met on the internet at one point, and divorced him, all within a year & a half.)

Come to find out later, she got together with a (ex-)"friend" of mine after we broke up for a few months... and cheated on him, with me & at least one other guy. Well, in my defense, I was apparently the last person on Earth to find out they were even together, by design, I guess. C'est la vie, he can go frick himself.

Anyway, about a year into our relationship, she told me she had missed her period. We, being 16, were of course worried, but a couple of weeks go by and she tells me, "Oh, it just came late. Everything's fine, I'm not pregnant." I never thought about that incident for damn near 15 years.

Right when the pandemic started, she calls me out of the blue. It was weird since I hadn't talked to her at all for well over a decade at that point, but, I thought, it was refreshing to catch up with an old voice. We talked for maybe a half hour and then she hits me with her guilty confession. During those weeks in our relationship when her period was "late" she was, in fact, actually pregnant. She went ahead and got a secret abortion and never wanted to tell me.

I didn't know what to say. I'm not a raging pro-lifer, in particular, but, in a matter of seconds I felt anger, rejection, and disappointment, all at once, that she wouldn't even involve me in such a decision and hide it from me for so many years. Even a shade of relief, I'll admit, considering how it could've impacted our lives at a young age.

I let the phone call hang for an awkward couple of minutes of silence. Then, when she awkwardly started to end the call, I told her something along the lines of, "Look, there's nothing we can do about it now. We were kids. I won't judge you, but, if there's a God, I hope they will."

Haven't heard from her since.

Yes. Actually went thru Garth Brooks Unanswered Prayer word for word! It was quite awkward. Mrs Geaux was not amused. However they are friends now.

I had an ex write me a letter ten years after our relationship ended. She was married and had a small kid but wasn’t happy with her husband.

Funny thing was when Susan and I were dating she was talking to Roy on the phone. She even would talk to him while I was in her living room waiting for her to get dressed for our date.

Susan started sexting me and wanted me to go to Texas to meet up and hook up. I wasn’t doing that to a married woman. She would call me and tell me how bad she wanted me inside of her while her daughter was in the living room.

I turned Susan down and she got pissed and ignored me for months. She eventually divorced Roy and had a new man in her life. Two months before getting married to her fiancé, she committed suicide.