re: For those who divorced before the age of 30

Posted by stout

Porte du Lafitte

Member since Sep 2006

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:36 am to ksayetiger

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Here comes ksayetiger, some little Flora-Bama problems then it was a done deal.

Posted by Jimbeaux

Member since Sep 2003

21746 posts

Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:36 am to Jimbeaux

If you wait too long to get married and have kids, the consequence is that your kids won't be getting out of college until you're in your 60's. Is that good or bad?

Posted by Pavoloco83

Acworth Ga. too many damn dawgs

Member since Nov 2013

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:37 am to Teddy Ruxpin

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Married before 25? No way. I came pretty close to it at 25, and I would have missed a lot. Close call.

Things may be different nowadays. We got married when we were 21. That was 33 years ago. Not sorry. Finding a good woman is hard and I got lucky.

Of course, there was no social media, online porn, tinder, Ashley Madison, etc.

Posted by Iron Lion

Romulus

Member since Nov 2014

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:37 am to Paul Allen

Girlfriend got pregnant when we were 17 and thought it was best to get married. We were way too young and stupid. I would strongly advise to not think about getting married before you are at least 25. However we just celebrated our 21st anniversary so you never know how things will work out.

This post was edited on 8/24/15 at 9:40 am

Posted by ellishughtiger

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:37 am to Jimbeaux

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Why do you think it's taking your generation so long to "know who they are"?

I feel it's a lot to do with young adults are exposed to so much via social media and the interwebs they will never be satisfied.

Posted by Jimbeaux

Member since Sep 2003

21746 posts

Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:40 am to ellishughtiger

That probably has some truth to it. Are you in that age bracket yourself?

Posted by TJRibMe

Houston, Mexas

Member since Sep 2004

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:45 am to PolyPusher86

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There's a lot of young people who have no clue what they want out of life and they'll drag you along looking for it if you allow it. 30 is a good age to get married.

This will be strange on the OT, but I married at age 23. We're still happily married, three kids later, and working on our 17th anniversary.

Everyone is different. Some are ready earlier, but I would say that today's culture promotes later marriages.

Posted by ellishughtiger

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:45 am to Jimbeaux

I'm 31, educated, not married and happily employed but always looking for new and better things. I would one day want to get with a bigger company where I had the opportunity to travel the world. My current company is small and I don't have that opportunity. I travel a lot on my vacation time and there's a lot out there and a whole lot more I want to see. Let's just say I'm always submitting resumes on linkedin, ha.

This post was edited on 8/24/15 at 9:48 am

Posted by Rhino5

Atlanta

Member since Nov 2014

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:46 am to Jimbeaux

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Why do you think it's taking your generation so long to "know who they are"?

I don't think it's a generational thing, people change as they age. however the ability to see what others are doing via Facebook and Twitter was not available 30 years ago. I definitely think social media plays a role and people take on ideas as to what life could be like when looking at someone who seemingly has it all together... Some good, some bad.

And also, there is a fair amount of 50-60 year olds undergoing plastic surgery, Botox, etc in an attempt to look younger. This wasn't the case many decades ago nor was it accessible as it is now.

Posted by arcalades

USA

Member since Feb 2014

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:48 am to ksayetiger

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My wife said she knew on the honeymoon.

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and started thinking about best way to end it.

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Here comes ksayetiger and it was a done deal.

Sounds like you landed a good one

Posted by TheCaterpillar

Member since Jan 2004

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 9:56 am to Paul Allen

I got married at 26 (she's 27). I am now one year into marriage and it was a great decision.

However, before even considering engagement we had been dating 4 years, both had "career" jobs not just temporary employment, and had lived with each other for a year.

Also, shared a dog before living together, really partied hard still with friends (still do ha), etc.

We took baby steps to our position. People who meet, date, get engaged and married, THEN move in together all within a year or two are completely nuts IMO.

Sharing a dog (responsibility) and sharing a living space for a year before engagement was great for us to really get to know each other in a way we didn't before. And it made us like each other even more, which was a great sign.

This contingent of folks that think having sex, living together, etc. before marriage is somehow a bad thing, are completely fricking nuts.

Posted by BabyTac

Austin, TX

Member since Jun 2008

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:00 am to Paul Allen

I didn't realize it, she did when she started approaching 30

Nothing is fun about a divorce, but the younger you are, the less chance they're kids involved or there is enough net worth to worry about.

I couldn't imagine being 40ish, with a couple kids and having to go thru something like that financially or the emotional baggage that would never go away.

This post was edited on 8/24/15 at 10:06 am

Posted by slackster

Houston

Member since Mar 2009

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:05 am to Henry Jones Jr

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He swore that he loved her and she had said that she wanted to marry him. Six months after convincing him it was best to wait, she was sucking another dude's dick.

Sounds like it was your fault she went looking for another guy in the first place.

Posted by YouAre8Up

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:07 am to fr33manator

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About the time she told me she wanted a divorce.

Posted by LSUbase13

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Member since Mar 2008

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:08 am to TheCaterpillar

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This contingent of folks that think having sex, living together, etc. before marriage is somehow a bad thing, are completely fricking nuts.

Meh, those people can respond with

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really partied hard still with friends (still do ha), etc.

as fricking nuts.

Not married by the way

Posted by fr33manator

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:08 am to BabyTac

Posted by Phil A Sheo

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Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:12 am to Paul Allen

When i found out she couldn't stay away from the clubs or her legs closed...

Posted by TheCaterpillar

Member since Jan 2004

76774 posts

Posted on 8/24/15 at 10:13 am to LSUbase13

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This contingent of folks that think having sex, living together, etc. before marriage is somehow a bad thing, are completely fricking nuts.

Meh, those people can respond with
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really partied hard still with friends (still do ha), etc.
as fricking nuts.

Not married by the way

I just think you learn sooo much about a person by living with them that you should do it pre-marriage. Just my opinion, but religious blowhards will hate it.

Also, being sexually "compatible" is so important. What if you have a terrible sexual relationship? Again, religious blowhards will hate on this, but I've dated girls where the sex was "meh" and it can ruin a relationship. Good to find out early about stuff like that.

And by party, I mean we go to concerts and stuff, go to bars on the weekend with friends, big dinners out a lot, etc. still and want to wait to have kids. Even though we're married we want to experience our 20's to their fullest, really push our careers, get ahead of our mortgage, and when 30 hits in a few years, start popping out babies.

This post was edited on 8/24/15 at 10:16 am