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Does every romantic relationship need a purpose? Roommate seems to think so...

Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:57 pm
Posted by saint amant steve
Baton Rouge
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Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:57 pm
I was talking to a roommate earlier about my current relationship of two years. It helps me from time to time to just talk things out and see how my perceptions and feelings stack up against a third-person perspective.

A little background information on my roommate: He has a wild past and did some pretty crazy stuff up until a few months ago (massive drug use, hooking up on a regular basis, etc.). But all of that changed a few months ago.

He met some cute girl at LSU who is VERY devout in her faith. She comes from a large family and they are all very involved in their church. Somehow, this young woman managed to turn my roommate away from his 'heathen/debaucherous' ways. He got saved shortly after meeting her and has rededicated his life to praising God. Also, he is now involved in a romantic relationship with this girl after 'courting' her for about two months.

Being a devout Christian, she is obviously saving herself until marriage. My roommate says that he is okay with that and he has been honest in revealing to the girl all of his shameful exploits. According to him, she was very forgiving and more or less said, "Well, that was the old you. You have changed for the better and I only care about the current you."

I respect their relationship, though, personally, I think it's insane given how extreme his lifestyle was previously. But whatever. God bless them, and I hope it works out.

Back to me...while talking things out my roommate asks me what the purpose of my current relationship is.

I say, "What do you mean?"

He replies, "Everything in life has a purpose. Relationships are no different. For most guys, dating is just an outlet for busting a nut unless you plan on getting married."

I get a little pissed and say, "Well, I don't know what the 'purpose' of our relationship is, but it's more than just getting my dick wet. What's the 'purpose' of your relationship?"

Without hesitating he responds, "To glorify God."

And at that point I realized the conversation wasn't going to amount to anything worthwhile.

So what does the OT think? Do all relationships have a purpose? Obviously, if you are married then your purpose is often related to your children, but what about non-married couples?


Posted by I Love Bama
Alabama
Member since Nov 2007
37694 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:58 pm to
Sometimes the purpose is to get balls deep.
Posted by HempHead
Big Sky Country
Member since Mar 2011
55438 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:58 pm to
quote:

Do all relationships have a purpose?


quote:

busting a nut
Posted by carlsoda
B Rah
Member since Dec 2009
5776 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:59 pm to
pics of roommates gf to know if it is even worth responding
Posted by CunningLinguist
Dallas, TX
Member since Mar 2006
18762 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:59 pm to
No one cares
Posted by HarryBalzack
Member since Oct 2012
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Posted on 1/11/16 at 2:59 pm to
That's a lot of text.
Posted by saint tiger225
San Diego
Member since Jan 2011
35369 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:00 pm to
Why in the hell do people come to the OT for love advice?
Posted by JBeam
Guns,Germs & Steel
Member since Jan 2011
68377 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:00 pm to
quote:

He met some cute girl at LSU who is VERY devout in her faith. She comes from a large family and they are all very involved in their church. Somehow, this young woman managed to turn my roommate away from his 'heathen/debaucherous' ways. He got saved shortly after meeting her and has rededicated his life to praising God. Also, he is now involved in a romantic relationship with this girl after 'courting' her for about two months.

Being a devout Christian, she is obviously saving herself until marriage. My roommate says that he is okay with that and he has been honest in revealing to the girl all of his shameful exploits. According to him, she was very forgiving and more or less said, "Well, that was the old you. You have changed for the better and I only care about the current you."

He'll relapse soon. Very rarely do people actually change.


Posted by undrafted
DHA
Member since Oct 2009
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Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:00 pm to
What year did she graduate from Dunham?
Posted by lsuwontonwrap
Member since Aug 2012
34147 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:01 pm to
Who cares what he does in his life? How is it any of your business?



This post was edited on 1/11/16 at 3:03 pm
Posted by burdman
Louisiana
Member since Aug 2007
20685 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:01 pm to
Get a new roommate.
Posted by fisherbm1112
Baton Rouge
Member since Jan 2010
6566 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:01 pm to
Just throw a bunch of whatever your roommate used to do at him every time he talks to you about it until he reverts back to his old ways.
Posted by saint amant steve
Baton Rouge
Member since Aug 2008
5695 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:03 pm to
quote:

He'll relapse soon.


I think so too. I think most of this lifestyle change has stemmed from him veering so far in one direction that it was only natural for him to swing equally far back in the opposite direction.

I'm pulling for him, but it's hard to imagine that he can undergo such a severe change at 19.
Posted by HempHead
Big Sky Country
Member since Mar 2011
55438 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:04 pm to
quote:

at 19.


Ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
Posted by gatorguru
New Orleans
Member since Aug 2014
333 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:04 pm to
if only your roommate knew what mother theresa did before she got saved... she probably could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch. While he volunteered all of his "exploits" I bet she didnt say a word
Posted by saint amant steve
Baton Rouge
Member since Aug 2008
5695 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:05 pm to
quote:

Who cares what he does in his life? How is it any of your business?


My concern isn't with his life. My concern is with him implicitly criticizing my relationship just because I don't intend to marry the girl or glorify God through our relationship.

His life choices are amusing, but I'm not going to critique him or his lifestyle.
This post was edited on 1/11/16 at 3:20 pm
Posted by Jones
Member since Oct 2005
90447 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:07 pm to
I wouldn't associate with him anymore if he is going to preach and look down at you.
Posted by JBeam
Guns,Germs & Steel
Member since Jan 2011
68377 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:07 pm to
quote:

I'm pulling for him, but it's hard to imagine that he can undergo such a severe change at 19.

Wow...

His new lifestyle won't last long. I really thought you would say your roommate was 25-30 range
Posted by CocoLoco
Member since Jan 2012
29108 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:07 pm to
He sounds like a brainwashed idiot. How hot is the girl?
Posted by saint amant steve
Baton Rouge
Member since Aug 2008
5695 posts
Posted on 1/11/16 at 3:07 pm to
quote:

if only your roommate knew what mother theresa did before she got saved... she probably could suck the chrome off a trailer hitch. While he volunteered all of his "exploits" I bet she didnt say a word


I get the impression that she very well might be white as the driven snow. She seems pretty genuine.

It's a shame, because she's pretty attractive.
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