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re: Do you allow your teenagers to drink?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:01 pm to theantiquetiger
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:01 pm to theantiquetiger
Sorry, but it's bad parenting to be buying your child alcohol in high school.
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Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:01 pm to theantiquetiger
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That’s why we were the DD
Gotcha. I read it differently in the OP. Yeah I have no problem with that at all.
I personally never had a curfew growing up and only one rule, “You drive under the influence, your arse is done.”
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:01 pm to AlterDWI
quote:explain
Sorry, but it's bad parenting to be buying your child alcohol in high school.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:02 pm to GreenRockTiger
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So you enable it even more?
it’s better to sneak around?
Shame and guilt still have a place, and they do work.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:02 pm to theantiquetiger
I feel like there’s a pretty distinct line between 18 yr old/graduating/home/with parents vs supplying them alcohol throughout high school and sending them off on adventures with it.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:03 pm to RogerTheShrubber
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Yet, youre enabling it.
What do you think is more enabling, me managing the way they drink, or teen peer pressure at a party?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:03 pm to BilbeauTBaggins
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I think the idea is that you know they're going to drink, you might as well have them learn to do it in a less irresponsible way and make sure they don't kill themselves
Personally I think it's insane that a kid at 17 can enlist in the Marine corps, be given a literal machine gun/mortars/artillery/etc, drive a car, be given a personal long rifle/shotgun at 18 without military service, but a beer at 18 is too dangerous
. How does this make sense?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:05 pm to theantiquetiger
My parents outlook on it (more so pops) was he knew we were gonna go drink. He preferred it be a controlled environment and the minute the first beer was cracked keys were taken. His outlook was we were gonna do it either way, so he’d rather at least be able to monitor it. In todays world it’s a total liability and I wouldn’t do it but things were different back then.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:05 pm to rocksteady
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feel like there’s a pretty distinct line between 18 yr old/graduating/home/with parents vs supplying them alcohol throughout high school and sending them off on adventures with it.
Ironically one can make the other far less dangerous.
The real danger is drinking and driving and drinking in an uncontrolled setting. With bar tenders serving drinks and Uber/Lyft a thing, why are forcing 18 year olds to drink underground where it's far less safe?
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:06 pm to theantiquetiger
If you had to start a thread trying to justify it from the opinions of strangers then it’s probably wrong.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:07 pm to NYNolaguy1
I think you’re agreeing with me??
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:10 pm to The Boat
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If you had to start a thread trying to justify it from the opinions of strangers then it’s probably wrong.
No, just a great topic for discussion. I don’t need justification of anything. I got a couple of great kids that were zero problems as high school teenagers, both graduated with honors. Both now make great decisions of responsibility.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:10 pm to GreenRockTiger
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explain
Lots of reasons. First, it's illegal. It's setting a bad example in that sense. Second, it's setting them up for addiction later down the road. When I was in high school, the kids who's parents let them drink were the ones who were always drinking. Third, teenagers make dumb decisions when they are sober. Buying your child alcohol & sending them off to a party somewhere seems insane to me. You're basically endorsing bad behavior & poor decisions instead of promoting responsibility.
I could list more but thise seem like the big ones.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:10 pm to The Boat
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If you had to start a thread trying to justify it from the opinions of strangers then it’s probably wrong.
We should definitely inform Europeans that they are all wrong. It's much smarter to deprive them of these vices until they are out of the house and in college with no supervision.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:12 pm to RogerTheShrubber
quote:if you grew up in a household with people who already drink - it just doesn’t make sense
Shame and guilt still have a place, and they do work.
I don’t think a 12 year old should drink a but I allow my 17 year old to drink a beer or two after cutting the grass - and I’m pretty strict on everything else
A 20 year old that lives at home because they are in school should be shamed because it’s illegal to drink? lol
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:13 pm to AlterDWI
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When I was in high school, the kids who's parents let them drink were the ones who were always drinking.
It was always the other way around, 40 years ago, and my daughters said it was the same now. The kids that were not allowed to drink were the ones that ended up fricking shite faced, doing stupid shite.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:14 pm to theantiquetiger
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What do you think is more enabling, me managing the way they drink, or teen peer pressure at a party?
In high school, a big friend group would hang out at my buddy's house down the street in our neighborhood.
Every Friday, Saturday we'd be over there hanging out, drinking.
Most of our parents knew what we were doing. My dad would drive by and wave while I was sitting on my tailgate with a beer. He just asked that we not leave the neighborhood.Of course we did, we were morons.
I think many attitudes around this are very different than 30 years ago. I only had a few friends' parents that were uptight about drinking in high school.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:16 pm to theantiquetiger
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my daughters said it was the same now. The kids that were not allowed to drink were the ones that ended up fricking shite faced, doing stupid shi
Your daughters could also be telling you that so you'd contunue to buy their alcohol.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:16 pm to theantiquetiger
Trashy. After graduation then they can drink responsibly and you hope that transfers when in college. Worst parents were the “cool” ones.
Posted on 8/10/24 at 1:18 pm to AlterDWI
quote:so is speeding, not stopping at a stop sign, not stopping before turning right on red, not wearing a helmet riding a bicycle, not stopping for people in a crosswalk - the list goes on and those things can kill people, too.
First, it's illegal. It's setting a bad example in that sense
quote:there are plenty, plenty people who have addiction problems that did not drink as a teenager - and your anecdotal story is not valid
Second, it's setting them up for addiction later down the road.
quote:I do not do this personally, but if there are certain parameters in place - just like with anything else - smoking weed, having sex, etc - and the consequences are known - then no one needs do tell me how to parent
Buying your child alcohol & sending them off to a party somewhere seems insane to me.
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