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re: Divorce Prep
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:42 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:42 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Get your paper declaration filed first.
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Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:42 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Eh, you are just along for the ride now. Prep time was two years ago.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:44 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Film her in her drunk state if possible.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:44 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Talk to an attorney. Don’t hire a PI it won’t change the outcome of anything unless she is chopping up bodies on the weekends. If she wants to settle now wait until the end of the year or you will get hit on taxes as a single filer. Learned that one hard way last year.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:45 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
quote:Seriously, get a damn good lawyer.
I want to protect the kids and keep their house to try and keep things as stable as possible.
This is gonna get fugly.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:46 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Set her up for an alcohol related arrest if she’s a heavy drinker and you think she’s a risk to your children
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:46 am to BluegrassBelle
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Don’t do any of the shite folks are suggesting in this thread until you hire a good lawyer who can ensure you’re not screwing yourself over. You have to be careful about moving finances and the like in a divorce situation.
1. He doesnt have to hire a lawyer until the divorve papers are filed with the court and he's served
2. He can do whatever he wants with his money until the divorce papers are filed and he's served
as of right now, he going off of hearsay from a friend that shes meeting with an attorney....unless she retains him.....it doesnt mean shite
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:47 am to LSU Neil
I know she hides her drinking. She always puts her White Claw cans at the bottom of the bin and/or takes the trash out when I just did.
She came home the other night after picking up my son from a friends' house. I noted what time it was because the kids wanted to watch a movie. Anyway, I told them to take baths, get ready for bed, etc and went to work on my computer for an hour. I went back and saw a box in the trash can under the box were five White claw cans - she drank that many in an hour by herself.
She came home the other night after picking up my son from a friends' house. I noted what time it was because the kids wanted to watch a movie. Anyway, I told them to take baths, get ready for bed, etc and went to work on my computer for an hour. I went back and saw a box in the trash can under the box were five White claw cans - she drank that many in an hour by herself.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:47 am to Upperdecker
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Set her up for an alcohol related arrest
Thats cold blooded
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:48 am to broadhead
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Run your credit then freeze it.
Do not move out of your home for any reason. The one who files is in control so if you're going to do it go and file
This.
Also, reduce your credit limits on any cards you have. Start taking screen shots or download all account information so you can monitor them.
What you don't want is for her to anchor both of your finances by doing stuff drunk and stupid.
Go to counseling yourself. Talk to someone. Keep your head on your shoulders and be an adult about everything.
MOST importantly, keep being a good parent. No matter what
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:49 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
OP what does she drink? I ask this because if there's a specific kind of alcohol she's buying and she's paying with a card, you may be able to track the frequency of the purchases based on the debit amounts and where said items were purchased.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:49 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
Where do yall sleep at during these messy situations?
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:49 am to AmosMosesAndTwins
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Find out which attorney and meet with them first.
I know which attorney but she's already met with her. I don't want to give any clue as to what I know.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:50 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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She came home the other night after picking up my son from a friends' house. I noted what time it was because the kids wanted to watch a movie. Anyway, I told them to take baths, get ready for bed, etc and went to work on my computer for an hour. I went back and saw a box in the trash can under the box were five White claw cans - she drank that many in an hour by herself.
She sounds stressed and like an emotional mess. You loved her at one point and may still, you really need to try and figure out what is causing that. Be honest and look yourself in a mirror.
If not for your marriage, then for your kids
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:52 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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I went back and saw a box in the trash can under the box were five White claw cans - she drank that many in an hour by herself.
you should probably research and retain a good divorce attorney and leave all of the dime store detective work to him/her, a lot of advice on here so far is from people that watch too much tv and listen to too much gossip, I repeat, it's a business transaction at this point forward, try to throttle your emotions, be there for your kids, and follow your attorney's advice
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:52 am to SallysHuman
What’s the point? Infidelity, as far as I know, in Louisiana doesn’t give you any extra collateral in anything.
They’re going to spilt all property in half at the very least. Account for all your financials RIGHT NOW. I’d move half of whatever joint savings you have that she has access to.
For custody you need joint. Don’t settle for less. However if you try to get sole, you better have damn solid evidence of your wife being a shitty parent. Otherwise it’s not going to happen. Courts will typically always favor the mother when it comes to custody.
If she really wants a divorce I’d do everything in your power to make it amicable and cost efficient. Hire and attorney and hash out property and money. Only pay the lawyer to file stuff legally. That’s my .02
They’re going to spilt all property in half at the very least. Account for all your financials RIGHT NOW. I’d move half of whatever joint savings you have that she has access to.
For custody you need joint. Don’t settle for less. However if you try to get sole, you better have damn solid evidence of your wife being a shitty parent. Otherwise it’s not going to happen. Courts will typically always favor the mother when it comes to custody.
If she really wants a divorce I’d do everything in your power to make it amicable and cost efficient. Hire and attorney and hash out property and money. Only pay the lawyer to file stuff legally. That’s my .02
This post was edited on 9/11/25 at 11:54 am
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:53 am to baldona
Hiring a divorce attorney and filing and getting a divorce is different than splitting up community property, the partition phase, which very may cost both of you even more money if you each have to hire a forensic attorney to sypher through all the finances and debt....and God forbid if either of you own your own companies or are self employed
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:53 am to Tiger n Austin
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During counseling, did you discuss the drinking and any potential alcoholism
Oddest f*cking thing ever. The counselor always skipped over that. He said he was trying to resolve other things before getting to that. We saw this guy for over a year and he never addressed it. He even noted I brought it up like 23 times during one of our sessions - he knew exactly how many times I had brought it up.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:53 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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I want to protect the kids and keep their house to try and keep things as stable as possible. She can have everything else.
Be the stable rock for those kids. That's what I did. I didn't leave the house, so I kept the house. She turned to drugs and disappeared for a few years. I had to play Superdad for a few tough years there. As a result, all three of my children are well-rooted and have a great future ahead of them. They're all in the high school years, and are starting to see their mom for who she is without my input.
Posted on 9/11/25 at 11:55 am to Cage Fighter Trainee
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Oddest f*cking thing ever. The counselor always skipped over that. He said he was trying to resolve other things before getting to that. We saw this guy for over a year and he never addressed it. He even noted I brought it up like 23 times during one of our sessions - he knew exactly how many times I had brought it up.
That's malpractice. It's seriously infuriating on your behalf.
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