re: Did you want to know who your SO slept with in the past?

Maybe the question isn't really should it be discussed; it's should you judge/care.

I can see it both ways. You're allowed to be picky when choosing a partner, and just like the things they do for fun, the hobbies/interests they have, etc. all lead into how compatible they are for you, how they view sex also factors into that.

It goes both ways. Like I said, there are plenty of people I can picture that I know are married and have pasts that they've chosen to keep to themselves. They are pretty happy in their marriages too. If you happen to be with someone that WILL get jealous about your past, maybe choosing to keep that to yourself is a good thing.

I have plenty of things (not sexually related) that I choose to keep for only me. That's okay too.

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I went ahead and edited her page to reflect the facts about her sexual partners

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thanks bro, I always deny that when the wife brings that up

I agree.

With my ex the conversation was tense and jealousy was always in the air, on both our parts. Although I had way more info to divulge. And he cared, and judged.


With my current husband it's something we can talk about freely. Def no judgement. I think it's healthy to talk about past relationships.

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I think it's healthy to talk about past relationships.

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If those relationships dont involve admited whores here.

truth be known, I was only 727Tiger back then

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It does matter. It tells you something about that person and not always something negative like most people think. Almost everyone agrees that sex is an important part of a healthy relationship. Therefore it is an important part of life, right? I find it strange to ot discuss something a big part of someone's life like that. It's fine to disagree. I'm just saying I could never be with someone that wouldn't want to discuss it. Being open and honest is very important to me. That's all.

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But can you blame some for not wanting to delve into detail?

I'm secure; I don't mind telling my wife what she doesn't want to hear; and I certainly don't mind hearing about her past -- zero fricks. But I can understand why some are not comfortable with it, and I don't believe it is an unparalleled barometer of someone's real self. Sex is just sex, which is essentially an emotional expression -- if you can't figure out if someone is sexual or asexual through your interactions with them, you should not be in a real relationship with them.

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