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re: Dealing with Teenage daughters

Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:18 pm to
Posted by jorconalx
alexandria
Member since Aug 2011
10526 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:18 pm to
quote:

Need more context. Is this a long time friend you know their parents, or a "new" friend? 5 minutes down the street or 5 hours away


That’s not how it works
Posted by fallguy_1978
Best States #50
Member since Feb 2018
52942 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:19 pm to
Our youngest is 17. She's a pretty good kid, and doesn't give me a lot of shite, but I take her phone when she does occasionally. I've taken her car too.

Me and her mom pay for both, so I remind her neither are really hers, and ours to take or give at our discretion.
Posted by BluegrassCardinal
Kentucky
Member since Nov 2022
1719 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:19 pm to
Her 18 year old friend and her have been friends since third grade. Her friends bf ( where they were going to crash) is 20, with his buddies close by.

Not happening.
Posted by dukke v
PLUTO
Member since Jul 2006
216008 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:19 pm to
Your house your rules…
Posted by Scruffy
Kansas City
Member since Jul 2011
76485 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:20 pm to
Scruffy’s 7 mo daughter loves him and will never not love him.
Posted by Breaux
Member since Nov 2005
4475 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:20 pm to
By 17 my daughter was my baby girl again.

14-16 was a whole different story!

Lawd I don’t miss that at all! Prayers sent.
Posted by When in Rome
Telegraph Road
Member since Jan 2011
36157 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:21 pm to
My 4 year old called me a bad guy recently. It both cracked me up and made me sad. :(
Posted by Rev Bob Levy Sucks
Member since May 2024
101 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:22 pm to
Put a hold on her cell phone number and data on your provider.

If she wants it back sell it to her for ammo funds at an exorbitant price

Posted by deeprig9
Unincorporated Ozora
Member since Sep 2012
72852 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:22 pm to
quote:

Her 18 year old friend and her have been friends since third grade. Her friends bf ( where they were going to crash) is 20, with his buddies close by.

Not happening.




Are you willing to go Uncle Buck if she doesn't comply?
This post was edited on 5/28/24 at 8:25 pm
Posted by cubsfinger
On The Road
Member since Mar 2017
1833 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:23 pm to
I was wondering how long this would stay civil haha. The PermaPoboy coming in hard…
Posted by fallguy_1978
Best States #50
Member since Feb 2018
52942 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:23 pm to
quote:

Scruffy’s 7 mo daughter loves him and will never not love him.

They suck for about 2-3 years. It happens all of the sudden too. They just take their head and shove it up their arse. Luckily it doesn't last too long.

I was 1000x worse than mine have been. I still apologize to my dad occasionally
Posted by Gaston
Dirty Coast
Member since Aug 2008
41694 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:26 pm to
She doesn’t hate you.

My 18 yr old boy just finished his Jr year and I’ve been very glad we held him back in kindergarten. Life would be absolutely unreal if he were he’s supposed to be this time next year (enrolled in college and on the FB team). He’s just not mature enough.
This post was edited on 5/28/24 at 8:28 pm
Posted by TomRollTideRitter
Member since Aug 2016
13094 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:27 pm to
I’m not a dad, but when I was 17, I probably would have been mad about you and your wife saying hell no to that.

Has she given you a reason not to trust her in that situation? If so, then have a mature conversation about that with her being the reason you feel uncomfortable. If not, then it’s understandable she’d view it as you treating her with no respect.

Most kids want to be treated with the respect you’d treat another adult whether or not they deserve it.

The girl doesn’t actually hate you. If she did, she wouldn’t have bothered to ask if she could stay or really come to you for anything at all.
Posted by Hondo Blacksheep
Member since Jul 2022
2941 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:27 pm to
I don't have kids but that sounds very painful. Obviously she doesn't mean that literally and is just frustrated bc she wants more freedom, but I remember saying obnoxious shite like that to my parents, and I guess it's a right of passage or whatever. Our parents probably ran their mouths at their parents too. Hang in there.
Posted by Indfanfromcol
LSU
Member since Jan 2011
14799 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:28 pm to
Kids say mean things. The are young, immature, and don’t realize what they say hurts deep. I never realized this as a kid and couldn’t until I was a parent myself.

Hang in there OP. She doesn’t actually mean it. Just like when they were 3, they are testing their boundaries. If you raised them right, after some time they will realize they fricked up. Or they won’t until 15 years later. It’s hard being an adult, it’s hard being a parent, it’s fricking hard to be a good father, but its always worth it in the end.
Posted by StreamsOfWhiskey
The Woodlands, TX
Member since Jun 2013
827 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:29 pm to
I have no advice to give. I have three daughters: 20, 16 and 13. I get along well with all three. None of them ever had the typical rebellious teens phase. All study hard - oldest is on scholarship up at BYU. All are straight A students. I feel very blessed to say the least and keep expecting some demon to emerge out of at least one of them.

We go to church every week and so we are a very Christ - believing family, which I realize is not a panacea by any means. We did forbid cell phones until they got to high school but we do not allow phones upstairs or in their rooms and absolutely no social media is allowed.

Feels like it has made a difference in my children. YMMV
Posted by Rev Bob Levy Sucks
Member since May 2024
101 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:29 pm to
quote:

but its always worth it in the end.


Is it though?

According to what?
Posted by sqerty
AP
Member since May 2022
8095 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:29 pm to
In some cultures when a female is born they place the newborn in a basket and send it down river.
Posted by Cracker
in a box
Member since Nov 2009
19077 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:31 pm to
When I came home from college my parents were still my house my rules respect the house rules.
She will understand maybe not today but when you have a free min with her after the smoke has cleared and tell her that hurt you and it won’t be the last time she will say that and you understand that but you love her. She will be alright TELL HER GO ATC in the airforce
Posted by OWLFAN86
Erotic Novelist
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194270 posts
Posted on 5/28/24 at 8:31 pm to
While major depression can develop at any age, the average age at onset is the mid-20s. With bipolar disorder, which affects approximately 2.6% of Americans age 18 and older in a given year -- the average age at onset for a first manic episode is during the early 20s.
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