re: Anyone know people who choose to be miserable?

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I was just saying the mother is entirely too hung up on it.

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frick, Paige. It is death of her young child. No one would expect you to understand with your fantastic love for your child.

owwie..

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but at some point you have to decide to continue living

I think the problem is you do not understand how it is to grieve one of the most important people in your life (hope you never have to).

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I guess I get what Paige is saying; she just maybe could have re-phrased it. Instead of "you have to..." maybe something like, "it might be better to..." Just a thought.

I consciously choose to work for Schlumberger, so yea I qualify

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My god you are an insufferable count. I hope you never know the hell of losing a child.


You sicken me. You really do. You are a vacuous harlot incapable of human decency and empathy.

I take comfort in the fact that you will end up unloved, unwanted and alone.

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Well then....tell us how you really feel!

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You are a poxy whore with far too much self esteem for your frankly passable looks

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Everything you have said in your last few posts would suggest you think she has low self-esteem FWIW.

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I think the problem is you do not understand how it is to grieve one of the most important people in your life (hope you never have to). You are on the outside looking.

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Truth.

We lost my 24 year old brother 5 years ago. I moved back for awhile to take care of my mother who had a full on breakdown over it. She'll never be "over it". I'll never be "over it". There will never be a sense of normalcy again even if we all put on a happy face for everyone else. That's just the truth of it. Luckily, my Mom is at a point where she can go to work and function in daily life. But there are still many days that she's doing good to get out of bed.

She's certainly not choosing to be miserable. And meds don't fix everything either.

WORLDSTARRRRR!!!!

This thread is pathetic on so many levels

Wow. I don't want to even think about it. I don't think Paige meant to be callous with her post. I understood her to mean this woman seems to stew in her grief. 1) I can't imagine breathing without one of my children, much less moving on. 2) A mother grieving the death of her child in this manner doesn't sound like someone choosing to be miserable. How can she not be miserable? But, it sounds like she needs an outlet for her grief. I hope she finds a support group or friends who will listen and help her live again.

Not at all the same as losing a child, but I talk about my son's illness on here and FB often because it is an outlet for me. When you are dealing with a crisis, people are generally very helpful and understanding. But, there is a social expectation of time to move on from certain things, whether it's right or wrong. If you are dealing with a long standing illness (or the horrible, unending grief of losing a child) after a certain amount of time, people become worn out with you talking about it. They generally don't understand that it's your reality all day everyday. So, in an effort to not wear people out with hearing about it, many people do take to social media to vent their pain. It's a safe outlet for the most part. She doesn't have to see or sense the weariness of her friends and family as she talks about her son again.