re: Anyone else give up on dating?

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You were in a relationship for 15 years without getting married?

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I graduated HS with a couple that started dating in the 10th grade. They moved in together after HS and just got married a few years ago almost 30 years later

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As opposed to the fat alcoholic losers that get on a message board and complain about not being about to get any pussy. This, now weekly, thread is fricking pathetic

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Hey man, some of us fat alcoholic losers still get pussy.

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and if I ever got married again

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This will never happen for me

Post yourself on Tinder in Colombia; be forward & state your looking for someone who’d he willing to move.and maybe put on there, someone that can speak a little English, because if they speak none, it’s super hard.id your serious about a relationship. Be forward with them, they don’t really bullshite, most are straight shooters and they love American Gringos especially. I’d never date an American chick ever again.

Narrow it down to a few and take a trip down there and do your own version of Bachelor and see which one you like the most. Than go down there for several more trips to get to know
The one that stands out and go on a couple vacations inside of Colombia, Santa Marta, Cali, Solento, Lake Celina, Medellin, Cartagena etc…

Your Tinder will light up like a Christmas tree with gorgeous women that you won’t even be able to talk to them all.

I did it and before I went down there I had already narrowed it down to my current woman & didn’t even want to meet anyone else. Most appreciative, humble, easy going, down to earth human being I’ve ever met. Old fashioned, non-materialistic and just goes with the flow.

We are in the VISA process now. And I have a great guy down there that does the VISA assistance way cheaper than an American Law Firm.

Now it’s just a waiting game, and she’s originally from Venezuala but Mom’s side are Colombian and she got out of Caracas in 2017 when it really collapsed. But being from Venezuala, she can’t travel here until we get the VISA, so that’s the only thing that sucks.

If you’re serious a solid woman, strongly suggest this route.

And of course, there are some down that are materialistic or just wanting to come to the USA or whatever, but you can sniff that out quickly.

Especially the PAISAS in Medillin, they have the spiciest ones there.

Cali is a good area to find one that is less likely to be scheming. I got super lucky finding my girl on my 1st venture.

It will change your life & Colombia isn’t what many people think or have perception about with crime and all.

I feel safer there then I do in New Orleans, that’s for sure.

And if you’re concerned about going about it this way, they have services that set you up, but I decided to give it a try organically and it worked. Changed my life for the good!

I was like you, married 15 years and it went south & I went thru the dating crap around here & it sucked!

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Post yourself on Tinder in Colombia; be forward & state your looking for someone who’d he willing to move.and maybe put on there, someone that can speak a little English,

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I hope you know what you are doing brother.. sounds like you have done great and your plan was well thought out.. but , as someone myself who has also sworn off dating in America, and who has dated extensively in other countries- the one rule i have always been advised to follow, and that I believe with 100% certainty to be true- is that you should never EVER bring your foreign woman back to America to live…… she will become Americanized, and she will also realize that she is desireable and exotic- unlike back in her home country where she is dime-a-dozen…. I have seen it happen with the sweetest and most kind-hearted of women, be they from Colombia or Venezuela or Vietnam or Cambodia or you name it….. I hope you know what you are doing .

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One thing that helps is to get them doing some type of job. If they sit around the house on socials all day it can down hill

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Nah.. as soon as they get a job , they’ll meet other toxic women who will tell her that “she can do better”.. no matter how great, or young, or rich the guy is- women always think they can do better….. a few months or years at that job in America and i can almost guarantee she’ll be less happy in the marriage/relationship.. sorry to be so cynical, ive just seen and heard too much on this very topic…. To me the only answer is to never bring her back to live in America.. despite what the lazy, cubicle-dwelling, arse-kissing, water cooler in-office losers here will say- remote work has never been so widely accepted and accessible as it is in 2025…. Find a remote gig, or start your own business et al and find a way to live where the desireable women are .. i think that’s really the best way .

No arse at all?

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You were in a relationship for 15 years without getting married?

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My son and his ex started dating each other at 17. They dated on and off while he was in college, then moved in together.

They split up a year ago after 18 years. Never married. No kids.

Probably rare, but it happens.