re: Any tips on becoming more assertive?

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when I am not passive, I skip over assertive and go great to aggressive. 

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This is me.

I think I put up with behavior from others that annoys me or aggrevates me without saying anything so as to not offend them, then they continue doing it and then I kinda lose it and go off on them.

The secret I think is to ask politely to stop such behavior before I get really aggregated by them.

I used this technique recently in a waiting room at a doctors office. A lady was texting on her phone, and her phone would make a click for every letter she would type, and it was unbelievably loud. Click clack click click clack clack! Everyone sitting around me was getting aggregated and rolling their eyes and she was just oblivious to her actions. After a couple minutes of her doing it, I said, "Ma'am, could you please turn the volume on your phone down? It's really loud." She apologized and turned the volume off and kept texting. Two different ladies looked at me and whispered "Thank you".

If I would have sat there for a couple more minutes getting more aggregated by her, I probably would have said something not so nice either in tone or actual language, like, "Ma'am, your aggrevating the shite out of me and everyone else in here. Are you deaf or just stupid?"