re: Another casualty of the opiate epidemic

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But the fact is she was leaving a wake of destruction in her path trying to cope with it.

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Where was she getting the pills?

I ask this because it would probably be a deal breaker for the relationship if she was sucking dick to get pills.

I'm not saying that to be edgy or anything but had it gone that far?

You know, I would like to think she wouldn’t do that, but at this point I don’t even know anymore.

I haven't read through the whole post but I only know 2 individuals that have been addicted to opiates and tried to kick the habit.

One guy got on with an outpatient clinic that provided counseling and withdrawal/detox medication. There are several, but a doctor can help find the best choice. This individual has been clean for 3-4 years now.

The other individual tried an inpatient, 2-month long, faith-based program. He is now sitting in jail awaiting arraignment after his 3rd arrest. Don't think he is getting out anytime soon.

$800 in the grand scheme of things is chump change.

I was fortunate to always have a good job and be able to afford my own shite, but, as sick as this sounds, I loved funerals, because we would always go back to the deceased's house and I could raid their pill cabinets for percs and vics.

I was a sick puppy for awhile.

Rehab was good for me. It got me on the right meds for my bipolar disorder and has kept me on the straight and narrow. A lot of what you hear in there will be bullshite, but take the break and use it to work on yourself (or herself as is the case right now.)

Don't be rebellious. Just go with the flow.

There were a lot of things I despised about rehab, but it introduced me to Refuge Recovery and for that I'm forever thankful.

My father is willing to help her, but my mother is pretty adamant about her not coming back. With my uncle dying who had 50% of the business, we now have 3 new partners. It's not really the money that bothers us, it's the opportunity she saw when my uncle wasen't going to be able to make it back to work and the cover up that she did. I mean she had me and my parents paranoid as hell that someone was breaking into the house. There was no evidence of a break in period. We are about to spend 3000$ on a camera system and she was going to sit there and let it happen.

Obviously she's not right and it doesn't sound like she's had any time to deal with the trauma.

She needs help, and it's not particularly fair to ask you to do it.

Have you talked to a counselor or addiction professional about what you need to be doing?

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I don't know if you've missed my posts, or just didn't care to respond. But, unless you are willing to totally be sober yourself, there is no decision to make.

The irony in these situations is that, assuming the addict really has it in them to change, the people around them usually don't.

So, while you are too good for her (the addict), there is a very good chance that you aren't good enough for her (the recovering addict).

I will say that when we took them together I told her multiple times she doesn’t want to go down this path. When I had my own pills come up missing and her money situation was going down hill I told her enough was enough. I weened her off and detoxed her myself. I told her it’s either me and the pills. And she knew that and she still chose to do what she did.

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I would like to think she wouldn’t do that, but at this point I don’t even know anymore

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Yes, she would. If she's an addict, she's in survival mode and survival is the next fix. If she'll steal from you, sell her ring and her laptop, and hide it all, she'll do whatever it takes to get her next fix.

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The other individual tried an inpatient, 2-month long, faith-based program. He is now sitting in jail awaiting arraignment after his 3rd arrest. Don't think he is getting out anytime soon

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The longer the better.i had a friend that was in a similar situation and did about 3-4 yrs. in jail,came out clean and is doing very well now.