re: Watch this and tell me fathers aren't needed

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For every story like yours, there are probably hundreds that didn't work out that way and the dude got screwed.

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Absolutely. It happens more than it should, and the system is unfair to fathers.

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you can be a good parent without making it formal through the legal system.

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You can. I'm not disputing that.

What I'm saying, is that I got tired of seeing my daughter have no parental continuity. I legally adopted to avoid the possibility of her mom running off and taking her away from me. Let's just say bio-mom had a history of instability, and I could predict what was going to happen, so I was proactive and had my defense (offense) planned out long before the situation played out.

I've lost a lot in my life, like many people. But I was not about to lose the very first child that ever called me "daddy" without a written order and a law enforcement official physically ripping her from my arms.

That's why I adopted. To give my daughter stability. If I hadn't done so, my daughter would have already been dragged through 11 boyfriends and 12 school districts in the last 7 years...

...and instead, she's entering her junior year having attended the same city schools since kindergarten.