re: The Bitterness of Missing Out on Love

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This is not love.

This is a script to a bad rom com.

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Most love in high school/college/mid 20's is like a bad rom com, wouldn't you agree? It also makes it pure and innocent which is what I feel like I missed. That's why people like rom coms.

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A real woman will care how much you make. You will care how much she makes. You will have bills.

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Does a girl in high school, college or mid 20's care what you make? I understand women in their 30s are going to care what you make and that's what takes a lot of the innocence out of love IMO. Again that's what I regret, that's what I missed.

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You don't really want a woman who doesn't care what her family thinks.

If she doesn't care what people think of her, can you honestly say that you would be ok with it? Are you going to date a woman with a face tattoo?

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I didn't mean that she doesn't care about her family at all. But a woman who isn't going to let her family control her. A woman that is still ultimately going to make her own decisions.

It's funny you bring up the tattoo thing. My dad at times has said "just kill us now if you bring home a woman who has tattoos". I would absolutely date women who have tattoos, maybe even full arm tattoos. You're right though I wouldn't date a woman with a face tattoo, just because I think it's unattractive though, not because of what my family would think.

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You sound incredibly immature. Life is complicated. People are complicated. Relationships are complicated.

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I agree that people are complicated. Heck I'm a complicated person, lol. I might be immature in terms of relationships just because I have no real experience in relationships. I was probably immature even into my 30s but I am honestly a pretty mature person now. I would not have been mature enough to have had this conversation even 2 years ago.

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But you've got start from a point in reality. Not what you're writing.

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Isn't all fantasy based in some reality though? No I agree, if I'm only looking for a woman based on what I'm saying I'm screwed because I would essentially be looking for a unicorn. But it goes back to the original question though. How do I get over the bitterness of never having the true innocent love? And yes it does exist, but mostly when you're young. I have to accept the fact that I've lost that opportunity and move on. It's just moving on that's been the hard part for me.