re: Question about relationships, economic advantage of one party, and chores

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so one person works more to pay for half the chores and still should do half the remaining chores?

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It depends on what those chores are. You say it's irrelevant, but it's really not.

ETA: And you aren't working more TO pay for half the chores. That's just a secondary or tertiary benefit at best.

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so one person works more to pay for half the chores and still should do half the remaining chores?

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I think the issue is more than the chores. When you are both home doing chores you are together, you are working like a team. If you get a second job you are no longer together.

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so one person works more to pay for half the chores and still should do half the remaining chores?

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You ever get asked if you brought enough gum for the whole class?

Same here. There is a very solid shot that the second person will still expect the first person to then share half of the remaining chores, or pay for all chores to be done by a third party.

On the other hand...do you guys split chores into personal things that need to be done? Like...only wash your own clothes, clean your own dishes, etc? Maybe then this makes sense, because you'd simply be outsourcing what would truly be YOUR chores.

If you split them randomly, you'd be paying for half of THE CHORES to be done not half of YOUR chores...

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so one person works more to pay for half the chores and still should do half the remaining chores?

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My wife and I do not make equal salaries, our chores are not proportional to the economic value that we bring to the relationship. Not sure why it matters if there is a second job. This thread seems to be like asking if economic value should be in proportion to chores around the house. IMO, if both parties are working the answer is no.