re: Why Is Calling a Woman 'Crazy' Their Ultimate Trigger?

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Too bad they don't ACTUALLY want to be educated, but since they follow all. my. posts. I will answer them. Hi guys, I hope you read this. Doubt you will, but you can no longer claim ignorance ?? Why is calling a woman "crazy" triggering? Let me explain. Because it is psychological abuse and manipulation. There is a term for it actually, it is gaslighting. It is 2017, so there have been MANY articles published on this very thing, but allow me to, once again, do all of this emotional labor for you, dear confused man who just cannot understand and needs an explanation. It is a man discounting a woman's VALID reaction as "hysteria" simply because she is a woman and has feelings (hormones are also highly involved in the convo when research shows that women's hormones have no effect on rationality vs irrationality, it just might make women more prone to NOT have the patience to deal with your BS as she would at another time). It is a tactic to shut a woman up and make sure she has zero credibility in a discussion that usually indicates wrong doing on YOUR part. It is also followed by and used as a tool to shape a woman's behavior. A woman must change what the man deems "crazy" or be viewed as irrelevant, continue to face ridicule, and even face being left, while the man is never held responsible for any self-evaluation or understanding of the truth. There is NOTHING loving or caring or helpful or positive about calling a woman (or anyone) "crazy" when they are sharing their experiences, reacting to something, or showing emotion. Emotion is not bad. Why is it triggering? Because it is one of THE most common tactics that narcissists, psychopaths, and sociopaths use to control women (Shameless plug for "Psychopath Free" here, go read it), so, of course, it is triggering when we realize that abusive tactics are being employed against us. Knowing that you are being abused SUCKS and the reason it TRIGGERS us is because it is dangerous and it kicks up our fight or flight response. Because we need to get away for our own protection. It has NOTHING to do with our own mental health (which is definitely more healthy than any man resorting to gaslighting us) or any "subconscious recognition" that we may, in fact, be crazy. Spoiler alert: "crazy people" don't recognize their crazy, nor are they offended by the idea that they are. They feel their most SANE when they are at their most INSANE. The following comments on the thread show that you men not only KNOW that it is abusive because you recognize the harm it causes a woman, but you also ENJOY employing it as an abuse tactic to get an emotional response out of a woman (which you will then punish her for when she has). So there you have it. Why is it triggering? Because you are a harmful, dangerous person and a woman knows deep down with all of her being that she needs to get away from your abusive influence on her.

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