re: Do any parents out there wish they didn't have kids?

Kids are awesome. I wasn't hip on them when I got marred but we had our first 5 years later. The value they add to your life is immeasurable.

Raising kids is THE hardest thing you will ever do. And it's true, they could grow up to be a worthless piece of shite. If I could do it again, I would do some things differently for sure. I love them very much. They end up being the person they want to be, not what you want them to be and that's hard.
So the answer to the question is yes and no.

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3) I'd like to enjoy the finer things in life

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LoL! Well, you can't be Selfish & a good parent.....not everyone is meant to have kids. Hope you enjoy your reserved table at Chedder's!

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Love when she pans down to the floor and you see those little eyes staring back.

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my 7 yr still does this sometimes. she did it a lot when she was a toddler though. gotta teach her about personal space sometimes haha

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Parenthood is just not what I expected it to be. I mean people told me that you have to make sacrifices when you become a parent but because I had never really made any sacrifices before having her, I had no idea what that might entail or feel like. I also thought I wouldn't mind missing out on all the partying and holidays because I would have the ultimate gift, a child but I have found that also to be untrue. I do mind missing out on the partying and holidays, and therefore I try to cram as much as that in as I can still, which makes my quality time with my child few and far between.

Yes I have her 5 nights a week, I feed her, bathe her, teach her, discipline her, put her to bed but I mean proper quality time I feel she misses out on because sometimes I have no desire as I'd rather be elsewhere.

I feel constantly guilty because I'm not putting my all in to be the best Mom I could be, how I imagined myself to be and I feel she is missing out. Before I had her I always wanted 3 children, now 1 is enough for me, I don't want anymore.

Like I said I wouldn't use the word regret but if I could have taken a glimpse into what parenthood really, really is like before I fell pregnant, I would have been a lot more careful. People can tell you but nothing can really prepare you for what it is really like.



This person sounds so incredible selfish and immature.

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This person sounds so incredible selfish and immature.

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Part of the interesting part of parenthood is that you really don't know what you're in for until you are actually in it. There's no way to adequately prepare for parenthood ahead of time. If anything, it is that uncertainty that also helps you to grow as a person. I troubleshot my behavior as a parent many times and tried to improve. There's always going to be challenges as a parent. A major mistake some make is thinking that they can raise kids like robots. WRONG! Kids come into this world pre-wired in terms of temperament. You guide them, you teach them, but when they become adults it's still their call as to whether or not they accept those teachings. In most cases after a child has established their own identity and autonomy as young adults, you find that they actually do fall back on a lot of what you taught them. Again, if I had it to do over, I would have still wanted to have our two kids.

If is selfish, it a selfish act that harms no one. But purposely having a kid you don't isn't unselfish or generous it's stupid. it can make you a horrible parent.

I'd like to be a parent but my girlfriend eats my kids.