re: The most evil women you have known

I understand what you're saying. My youngest was only 7 when my step dad, the only grandfather she knew, died and her mom left us to move in with my step sister's son, ie my nephew. I never told her how fricked up her mom was for doing that, but I never lied to her about it either. It was a real struggle not be hateful in front of the kids and still be honest with them, but I did my best.

I don't know exactly how you're handling your situation but in my opinion there's a big difference between allowing the truth to come out on its own and actively making your child's mother appear to be a better person than she actually is. I'm merely suggesting you try your best to do the former and as little of the latter as possible.

P. S. Don't expect your ex to return the favor.