re: School won't let my kid hand out invitations to her Birthday party

Which elementary?

Mine goes to LOE and she did she same thing for her B-Day party in September. Only wanted a few from a couple of different classes and handed them out at recess. Nothing was ever said except she couldn't hand them out in class if she wasn't inviting everybody

Instead have your kid personally ask the people who are invited saying it's so they can send their invitation in the mail. Nothing against asking for addresses, some rules are just stupid and people need to learn how to parent.

How hard is it to explain to your child the world isn't fair, you don't get invited to every little event, and not everyone is your friend?

Instead people want to piss and moan cause their child got their feelings hurt instead of using this to teach lessons that they will need in the future since getting left out will happen sooner or later.

Just make a card for everybody but for the kids that aren't invited just give a card that says "have a nice day" and don't hand them out until the end of the day.

Eta: or better yet just give the other kids valentines day cards.

If the school doesn't have a blanket rule about not handing out invitations unless everyone gets one, they will run into problems with the kids who aren't politely and discreetly handing out invitations on the playground, or the ones who get the invitations and show them to all their classmates who didn't get one, and then if they try to talk to the parents, all hell will break loose. It's easier to make a blanket rule that all can understand than to rely on the social tact of elementary schoolers.