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How do you deal with the death of your parents?
Posted on 1/21/14 at 12:53 am
Posted on 1/21/14 at 12:53 am
This has been on my mind lately. Like everyone else, the folks are getting up there. They aren't in the greatest health. I've been through some heartache, but these are the only two rocks in my life. It's just hard for me to imagine a world without them.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 12:55 am to tigersownall
My GF has lost both hers. All I can say is it hit her real hard. Her dad died last spring and she's nowhere near getting over it.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 12:58 am to tigersownall
Time helps. That's about it.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:00 am to tigersownall
Lost my Dad to lung cancer July 11, 2011 (exactly 1 month before his 60th birthday)
So many surreal moments from the time I got the phone call until the time we got home from the funeral. Also a lot of moments and days in there I don't even remember. Some of it was a blur and some of it is ingrained in great detail in my mind.
Wake and funeral are the easiest. It's going back to work, trying to sleep on that first night after they're buried...you realize that your world has taken a huge hit, but the world itself doesn't notice and life goes on.
You'll find yourself getting emotional when you least expect it and not being emotional at all when you think you should. I personally will never get over the loss of my dad (my best friend and mentor), but I cope with it better and better every day that life goes on. And maybe....hopefully, I can be half the man, father and person he was someday.
So many surreal moments from the time I got the phone call until the time we got home from the funeral. Also a lot of moments and days in there I don't even remember. Some of it was a blur and some of it is ingrained in great detail in my mind.
Wake and funeral are the easiest. It's going back to work, trying to sleep on that first night after they're buried...you realize that your world has taken a huge hit, but the world itself doesn't notice and life goes on.
You'll find yourself getting emotional when you least expect it and not being emotional at all when you think you should. I personally will never get over the loss of my dad (my best friend and mentor), but I cope with it better and better every day that life goes on. And maybe....hopefully, I can be half the man, father and person he was someday.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:05 am to tigersownall
My mom has been sick. Not sure what's going to happen. Prepared (I think), but not sure how I'll deal with it.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:06 am to tigersownall
You just have to accept the fact that they're gone. There will be bad day, and there will be good days. At times something will happen, you'll laugh and remember them and it'll make your day.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:13 am to McCringleberryy
I remember being such a spoiled brat in highschool and arguing with my parents a bunch. Since then I've aimed to be a better son to them and treat them like my best friends because they really are, and since then our relationship has been much better. They're getting up there in age also and I just want the next whether it's 1 year or hopefully 20 years to be as many good memories as can be.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:21 am to SuperSoakher
I never really gave them much shite. My dad (retired) will call me every day and wanna sit on the phone for 45 minutes telling me exactly what happened from the time he woke up till whenever without me letting a word in. It gets old, but I'm smart enough to know one day when he's gone I'm gonna be wishing 'pops' is lighting up on my phone as an incoming call. My mom health wise is worse off than him. If she happens to go first. My mind can't even fathom the pain he will feel.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:38 am to tigersownall
There's really nothing that you can be told bc everyone deals with it differently. You will think about them at times for the rest of your life. If you believe in God, know that they are in a better place.
Think about how they would not want you to sulk.
Think about it in a simplistic manner and that it happens to everyone and that they lived a good life.
You will never prepare yourself for it. Just make sure they know, today, how much you love them.
Think about how they would not want you to sulk.
Think about it in a simplistic manner and that it happens to everyone and that they lived a good life.
You will never prepare yourself for it. Just make sure they know, today, how much you love them.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:40 am to RBWilliams8
i make a point to tell my parents I love them every time I leave...whether on the phone or in person.
...wish I spent more time with them than I do.
don't know how I will be able to deal with losing them one day
...wish I spent more time with them than I do.
don't know how I will be able to deal with losing them one day
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:42 am to drake20
Yeah we end every conversation with "ILY". It scares me to think about my grandmother dying, much less my parents. I'm the first grandchild and to this day mawmaws admits I'm her favorite. Luckily she's healthy but thinking about any of them going saddens me.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 1:50 am to RBWilliams8
See that shite kills me. I'm the baby out of all my brothers and cousins and I can remember the last time I saw my grandmother alive like it was yesterday. I walked up to the bed. She smiled at me like I have never saw her smile before. Till the day I die I won't ever forget the look on her face. A few days later she passed.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 2:02 am to tigersownall
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Posted on 1/21/14 at 2:16 am to drake20
I haven't lost any relative that I was really close to. Closest thing was a best friend in HS. I won't take it well when one of the big 3 goes...
Posted on 1/21/14 at 2:30 am to tigersownall
Time helps plus knowing how badly he was suffering in the months leading up to his death and knowing he had no quality of life.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 2:31 am to tigersownall
My father passed away two years ago and it was tough. It was like a kick in the gut, and everytime I go home to visit my mom I find myself looking for him. And like a previous poster stated, you will find yourself all of a sudden having an emotional spell. I find they come less and less often thankfully. But you never get over it and will always miss him/her. And finally it forces you to come to grips with your own mortality, especially knowing that you are the next generation in line.
Do yourself, and them, a favor. Visit and call often. God Bless.....
Do yourself, and them, a favor. Visit and call often. God Bless.....
Posted on 1/21/14 at 2:43 am to tigersownall
It's more than a test. It's a whole new chapter in your life. Things that bring comfort also bring pain, till they sorta become one in the same. And that's called learning to live with it, one day at a time the best you can.
Things that you took for granted you'd give anything to just to have a few moments of that again. Memories become personal treasures, and with that, what seems as painful reminders can become pillars of strength.
Things that you took for granted you'd give anything to just to have a few moments of that again. Memories become personal treasures, and with that, what seems as painful reminders can become pillars of strength.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 5:28 am to tigersownall
I lost my dad. It isn't easy but life goes on, at first you will think about them every day and all the stuff you did and didn't do together. What you will realize is if you have kids enjoy them as much as you can.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 5:39 am to michaelb1100
This day is coming for me, honestly I have no clue how I will deal with it.
Posted on 1/21/14 at 5:50 am to tigersownall
quote:not well
How do you deal with the death of your parents?
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