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How do you deal w/a family member who's a selfish pathological lying professional victim?
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:44 pm
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:44 pm
I'm ready to give up
I believe in prayer, and I pray. Lord God it has not worked. Maybe I'm a bad prayer deliverer.
Issues are not drugs or alcohol, thank God.
Issues include: Been lazy their whole life. Pathological liar since ten years old. Push straight talk from others to them down to road 4 hours, or 4 weeks, or four years, and then pretend it never happened. They have zero clue how much money they have (mostly inherited) because they're too lazy to even keep track of it, plus they've wasted tons of it. And they expect YOU to pay for EVERYTHING. And they scream at you, at other family, and at anyone in the community who doesn't kowtow to their crybaby arse. They are "victims" of doctors, financial advisors who refuse to put up with their vicious attitude, whoever.
I believe in prayer, and I pray. Lord God it has not worked. Maybe I'm a bad prayer deliverer.
Issues are not drugs or alcohol, thank God.
Issues include: Been lazy their whole life. Pathological liar since ten years old. Push straight talk from others to them down to road 4 hours, or 4 weeks, or four years, and then pretend it never happened. They have zero clue how much money they have (mostly inherited) because they're too lazy to even keep track of it, plus they've wasted tons of it. And they expect YOU to pay for EVERYTHING. And they scream at you, at other family, and at anyone in the community who doesn't kowtow to their crybaby arse. They are "victims" of doctors, financial advisors who refuse to put up with their vicious attitude, whoever.
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Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:45 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
Start ignoring them.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:45 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
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they scream at you, at other family, and at anyone in the community who doesn't kowtow to their crybaby arse. They are "victims" of doctors, financial advisors who refuse to put up with their vicious attitude, whoever.
My sister has been this for my entire life. Cut her out of my life a decade ago and haven’t missed her a single day since.
This post was edited on 3/30/25 at 6:47 pm
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:47 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
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How do you deal w/a family member who's a selfish pathological lying professional victim?
Well, I pay her child support and a bunch of other expenses.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:48 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
Just show them love and live your life. Practice patience and continue praying.
Family is everything and I don't believe in cutting off anyone related to me by blood.
Just my $0.02.
ETA: I realize there are circumstances which require you to cut off family and I hope no one has to experience that.
Family is everything and I don't believe in cutting off anyone related to me by blood.
Just my $0.02.
ETA: I realize there are circumstances which require you to cut off family and I hope no one has to experience that.
This post was edited on 3/30/25 at 9:27 pm
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:48 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
Distance. Lot of it. In my experience in a very similar situation, once you draw the line and stick to it, they will do the hard part themselves.
I have a strong marriage. And it took all of it to stick to our guns. (In laws related)
I have a strong marriage. And it took all of it to stick to our guns. (In laws related)
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:52 pm to CaptainsWafer
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Start ignoring them.
“See you at the next funeral.”
You absolutely cannot and will not fix someone with those psychological conditions.
They’re hard wired that way and don’t want to change.
This post was edited on 3/30/25 at 6:54 pm
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:53 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
people deal with me in the way they think best
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:54 pm to billjamin
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Well, I pay her child support and a bunch of other expenses.
I have one of these, too, and I cut that one off also. Not out of my pocketbook, but out of everything fricking else.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 6:56 pm to CollegeFBRules
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My sister has been this for my entire life. Cut her out of my life a decade ago and haven’t missed her a single day since.
^^^^this.
Since the OP mentioned money, I'm assuming there is tie with that; otherwise, just ghost them.
Assuming you're a self made person, you owe nothing to anyone other than your kids, parents and spouse.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:02 pm to 214
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Just show them love and live your life. Practice patience and continue praying. Family is everything and I don't believe in cutting off anyone related to me by blood. Just my $0.02.
This sounds good in theory, the whole “family is forever” thing, but some of the worst hurts and abuses people endure (myself included) has come at the hands of family.
I believe in forgiveness and practice that everyday with God’s help, but reconciliation is a different thing entirely and I just don’t believe we have to allow someone to continue a cycle of abuse against us simply because of their blood.
There are some members of my family that no longer get access to me and Ive made peace with that.
This post was edited on 3/30/25 at 7:04 pm
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:06 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
How do I deal with them....I don't.
If you aren't my wife or kids and you cause me stupid drama then you are out.
If you aren't my wife or kids and you cause me stupid drama then you are out.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:06 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
“The blood of the bond is thicker than the water of the womb.”
“…If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
“…If your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and cast it from you; for it is more profitable for you that one of your members perish, than for your whole body to be cast into hell.”
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:11 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
It’s a good idea to talk to a professional if you haven’t already. Keep your head up, baw
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:21 pm to Cracker
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Confront them
I've lectured a doctoral dissertation to them...
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:22 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
This sounds like it has potential for some interesting stories. Give some details of their victimhood rants please.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:25 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
Seems like you could just avoid this person.
Posted on 3/30/25 at 7:27 pm to Harry Rex Vonner
Create boundaries, don't let their shitty behaviour effect your day to day. It's on them. You're not going to change them or convince them what they are doing is wrong
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