re: AOC snapped at her fiancé when he tried to put his arm around her

He's in it for the ride, why not? She's 'hot' re the OT's 'crazy=good sex scale, and she gets his 'arm'/emotional support in private and in the hay, and reacts accordingly, but rejects any public show of weakness to maintain her 'strong woman' ego persona.

It's all a plus and minus scenario. Riding the top of life's wave means awareness of and contrast with life's ugliness and negativity. Heaven v Hell, in effect.