re: Would you date a girl with a “softball build”?

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Just wondering if anyone has ever told a girl they’d date them but they need to go on a diet for it to work out

And how’d that conversation go

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It’s not a hard conversation to have if she is into you. They definitely won’t want to hear it but will eventually thank you for it as you were the man that helped them lose the weight and become who they wanted to be.

I did this with my ex. They may not want to hear it, but they need to live in reality at some point. Their family and friends enabling them to be overweight and their own constant coping is unhealthy both physically and mentally. Every girl wants to be thin/attractive. You just have to sell it to them, but they also have to truly want that. This girl was always chubby/fat because she had lazy parents. Told her that was not her fault growing up, but now you are an adult and it’s 100% on you to take ownership of your body and health. Stop coping.

I also warned her that her friends and family would probably dislike her once she lost weight and became very attractive. And that’s exactly what happened. At least she is hot now.