re: Divorce Board Spin-Off: If you have been married, why did you get married?

I got married for the great sex, good cooking, similar values, and the fact that my partner got along with my family. (Should probably list this first.)

We’ve been together over three decades now. Due to a family history of divorce, I looked for a partner from a similar background as myself. (Same racial, ancestral, and religious history.) In the early years, I believe that decision eliminated many potential sources of friction.

At this point in our lives together, I think it’s our similar interests that make the difference. Neither of us wanted children, so we don’t have that source of “glue.” We share similar tastes - in hobbies, pursuits, outdoor activities - that keep us on the same page and moving forward together.