re: Would you ever marry, or even date, a woman that's had an abortion ?

Sure. But acting like it's your job to judge others is also insane. Glass houses and all that. Circumstances, age, personal growth - factors that apply to all sins and aren't considered under blanket statements condemning people who have committed one of them. We'll all answer for our own sins - are also all entitled to forgiveness if we seek it. Unless you're perfect (you're definitely not) it's not your job to judge or condemn. That's why I think the post is insane.