re: I Took My White Husband's Last Name. I Didn't Realize It Would Affect The Rest Of My Life.

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But as a multiracial person, I found I was considered an outsider just like my white classmates. In Japan, introductions begin with family name first: Shiozawa Arison desu. The look on Japanese faces as they analyzed mine, their wheels turning, was a look that was all too familiar. It’s the same one I’ve seen on countless faces when meeting other Americans: eyes narrowed, brow furrowed, and some iteration of “What are you?” or “Where are you from?” If my response includes city and state, I’m met with an eye roll. “No, but where are you from?” In both situations, the confusion is similar. In both situations, the message is the same: You don’t belong here.

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Her experience in Japan makes me laugh. The Japanese are pretty racist. She will not be accepted fully as one of them. I think she wants to be fully Asian and she hates the white part of herself. American culture in general is very welcoming and open compared to most of the world. If she is going to belong anywhere, it is going to be here. She is just lost in who she is and lashing out at the wrong culture that she doesn’t want to be part of.

The people that keep blabbing on about Asian American attacks refuse to look at who is doing a majority of these attacks and why they occur. They want to blame it on a certain segment of the population when it is a different segment.