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My fiancee cheated on me.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:37 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:37 am
I think it's stupid to post personal shite on here... But I honestly have no one else to talk to. She admitted tonight there's someone else. Every time she said she was going to her "friends" house while I'm home with our daughter, she was with him.
How can someone tear apart a family? How selfish do you have to be to do that? To lie about it... To say you want to be a family and just cheat. How can someone do this? I'll never understand the level of selfishness... And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why. Part of me just wanted her to feel better. Why do I still love her and care about her? Why am I the one who is left here alone?
In what world is this fair? I know life isn't fair... But how can a person be so cruel? This isn't just about me, it's about our daughter too... Our family... I'll never get it.
How can someone tear apart a family? How selfish do you have to be to do that? To lie about it... To say you want to be a family and just cheat. How can someone do this? I'll never understand the level of selfishness... And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why. Part of me just wanted her to feel better. Why do I still love her and care about her? Why am I the one who is left here alone?
In what world is this fair? I know life isn't fair... But how can a person be so cruel? This isn't just about me, it's about our daughter too... Our family... I'll never get it.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:39 am to GEAUXmedic
shite dude. All I can say is be happy you found out before you married her. Start making moves to get your share of time with your kid. Seriously, start calling family lawyers tomorrow.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:40 am to GEAUXmedic
sorry to hear that, man...that shite just sucks. takes a damn long time to get over, too.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:42 am to GEAUXmedic
This sucks. How old is your daughter?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:42 am to GEAUXmedic
Congrats. Better to find out now.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:43 am to GEAUXmedic
Post history checks out.
Not gonna troll you at all, bro. That absolutely sucks. The absolute best advice I can give you is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!!
That sounds shady but do it. You don’t want to be on the hook for a cheater and your kids. Sorry you invested so much time with a whore, but here’s the bright side; Tinder is a thing, instagram is a thing, snapchat is a thing, etc. you will be free to crush young puss literally anytime you want.
Make the best possible decision next time around. Stable, career woman. Someone who has had success, not just a whore who coasted off your accomplishments. Good luck
ETA: Move on. Don’t dwell on it. That’s hard to envision but I can personally tell you that I’ve been where you’re at 10 years ago, and I celebrated my first kid this past year. Things get better, and I couldn’t be happier.
Not gonna troll you at all, bro. That absolutely sucks. The absolute best advice I can give you is DOCUMENT EVERYTHING!!!!
That sounds shady but do it. You don’t want to be on the hook for a cheater and your kids. Sorry you invested so much time with a whore, but here’s the bright side; Tinder is a thing, instagram is a thing, snapchat is a thing, etc. you will be free to crush young puss literally anytime you want.
Make the best possible decision next time around. Stable, career woman. Someone who has had success, not just a whore who coasted off your accomplishments. Good luck
ETA: Move on. Don’t dwell on it. That’s hard to envision but I can personally tell you that I’ve been where you’re at 10 years ago, and I celebrated my first kid this past year. Things get better, and I couldn’t be happier.
This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 12:48 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:44 am to GEAUXmedic
What a horrible betrayal. Be strong. At this point you need to be 100% pragmatic. You can be happy again but your next actions will dictate that.
You need to be a light switch. And that switch is turned "off".
You need to be a light switch. And that switch is turned "off".
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:46 am to GEAUXmedic
Prayers sent. Sorry she's your baby mama. But, and I can't stress this enough, you need to cut ties with her now not later. Seriously. She's revealed her moral compass, and there's really no way you'll ever be sure she's got it properly calibrated.
Don't make her your enemy--you are sharing a child after all--but don't let the child dictate your own romantic life.
Oh, and pics or GTFO.
Don't make her your enemy--you are sharing a child after all--but don't let the child dictate your own romantic life.
Oh, and pics or GTFO.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:47 am to GEAUXmedic
If you don’t have loyalty in a relationship, what do you have? Some things aren’t forgivable in my eyes. This being one of them. Best of luck.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:47 am to Carson123987
Damn, sorry to hear this man. At least you found out before you married her. Id be calling a family lawyer tomorrow morning. Sorry to hear..
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:48 am to GEAUXmedic
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And I told her I forgave her,

Why aren't you putting her shite on the curb?
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:48 am to GEAUXmedic
It's early, but I'm really proud of you frickers.
Good luck, medic.
Good luck, medic.
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:51 am to GEAUXmedic
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while I'm home with our daughter
Well, shite.... I don’t have kids so I don’t know how to identify 100% with you... but some people just suck.
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And I told her I forgave her, but I'm not sure why.
It’s because you share flesh and blood that you created together, plus great memories you are reluctant to give up. You can retract this forgiveness.
I would tell you to go on some sort of retreat for 2 weeks to get your head in order, but the kid with her makes that a little tricky. Call your parents, siblings, and friends though for support, and definitely get a therapist.
If you need anything else to talk about omlandshark@gmail.com
EDIT: and as others have suggested call up an attorney as well. At least she won’t be getting half your shite, so that’s a big bright side.

This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 12:55 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:54 am to GEAUXmedic
Medic listen and listen closely. The intial shock and hurt you feel is normal. The two of you brought a beautiful daughter into this world that said this is probably for the best before you said "I do". This woman sounds like she is selfish and wants something else in life. You take care of yourself and your daughter let her learn the hard way that she left a good thing. I went through this also but the difference is I felt like I wasted so much time and was miserable the last few years of my marriage. It's probably best that you find a better woman and maybe a better future for you and your daughter. Good luck 

This post was edited on 11/17/17 at 12:56 am
Posted on 11/17/17 at 12:54 am to GEAUXmedic
I'll give you the best advice my mother ever gave me when I went thru a divorce:
The woman you married is NOT the woman you're divorcing.
I know you said you're not married yet, but you have a kid together so the thought still applies. She is no longer the woman you fell in love with, she's a completely different person and she WILL frick you over in a heartbeat. All the sweet nice things she did for you in the past don't mean a damned thing now. Don't fall into the trap of thinking she still has your best interests in mind.
The woman you married is NOT the woman you're divorcing.
I know you said you're not married yet, but you have a kid together so the thought still applies. She is no longer the woman you fell in love with, she's a completely different person and she WILL frick you over in a heartbeat. All the sweet nice things she did for you in the past don't mean a damned thing now. Don't fall into the trap of thinking she still has your best interests in mind.
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