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nolady007
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I’ve been a member since 1999 and have yet to regret it.
It’s been my pop-a-lock, tow truck driver, flat tire savior, and my need a new battery (or a jump) hero. This year alone they’ve changed changed my battery once and fixed two flat tires.
They’ve also came to the rescue when I was riding with my mom (in her car) and she got a flat.
Because YOU’RE the member (not your vehicle), it provides service wherever you are and regardless of who’s vehicle you’re in.
Not to mention, they’re so freaking nice! The day I needed a new battery was one of the hottest days of the summer! The guy who came to change it showed up with an ice chest of bottled water for me and my kids.
Get it. It’s worth it.
It’s been my pop-a-lock, tow truck driver, flat tire savior, and my need a new battery (or a jump) hero. This year alone they’ve changed changed my battery once and fixed two flat tires.
They’ve also came to the rescue when I was riding with my mom (in her car) and she got a flat.
Because YOU’RE the member (not your vehicle), it provides service wherever you are and regardless of who’s vehicle you’re in.
Not to mention, they’re so freaking nice! The day I needed a new battery was one of the hottest days of the summer! The guy who came to change it showed up with an ice chest of bottled water for me and my kids.
Get it. It’s worth it.
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re: I think my wife is being selfish
Posted by nolady007 on 8/27/18 at 9:07 am to Tyga Woods
I'm just saying, if you don't want it to turn into an argument, make it about you (not them).
Imagine this: your wife approaches you and says "You spend too much time on TigerDroppings and watching football. You don't spend enough time with me and the kids. You're not pulling your weight around the house. You're a slob and I'm sick of picking up after you."
How do you respond? It's only natural to defend yourself. "I only watch football on the weekends and I'm only on TigerDroppings when I'm on the john. I watched the game with you Friday and Junior helped me cut the grass on Sunday. Where else should I throw my dirty pants (besides the middle of the bedroom floor) so you know I want them cleaned?"
If your wife went to you and said: "I miss you and want to spend more time with you. The kids miss you too. I'm so overwhelmed, I could really use some help around the house. I saw your pants in the middle of the bedroom, should I fold them or do you need me to wash them?"
Now, how do you respond? You can't be defensive when they're coming at you with their feelings and asking for help.
Imagine this: your wife approaches you and says "You spend too much time on TigerDroppings and watching football. You don't spend enough time with me and the kids. You're not pulling your weight around the house. You're a slob and I'm sick of picking up after you."
How do you respond? It's only natural to defend yourself. "I only watch football on the weekends and I'm only on TigerDroppings when I'm on the john. I watched the game with you Friday and Junior helped me cut the grass on Sunday. Where else should I throw my dirty pants (besides the middle of the bedroom floor) so you know I want them cleaned?"
If your wife went to you and said: "I miss you and want to spend more time with you. The kids miss you too. I'm so overwhelmed, I could really use some help around the house. I saw your pants in the middle of the bedroom, should I fold them or do you need me to wash them?"
Now, how do you respond? You can't be defensive when they're coming at you with their feelings and asking for help.
re: I think my wife is being selfish
Posted by nolady007 on 8/27/18 at 8:23 am to Tyga Woods
One more thing: when you adddress the issue and suggest counseling, do not say “you.” She’ll get defensive and shut down.
Make this about your needs. “I’m not happy, I’d like to go to counseling. I. I. I.”
Not saying “you” is harder than you think. Practice beforehand.
I’m out.
Good luck.
Make this about your needs. “I’m not happy, I’d like to go to counseling. I. I. I.”
Not saying “you” is harder than you think. Practice beforehand.
I’m out.
Good luck.
Long time reader. First time poster.
Couldn’t help it. This sounded SO familiar.
Couldn’t help it. This sounded SO familiar.
re: I think my wife is being selfish
Posted by nolady007 on 8/27/18 at 8:04 am to Tyga Woods
She’s not happy.
She’s bringing home work and no one else else at her place of work bring as much home - she’s avoiding having to deal with her home life by drowning herself in work.
She’s ignoring responsibilities around the house, pushing off whatever chores she can to you (like laundry, cleaning and picking up the kids) - also avoiding having to deal with home life.
She’s only engaging in the things that make her happy like church, volunteering, etc - again, avoiding home life.
I did all the same things before I filed for divorce.
Get counseling or prepare for divorce.
It’s not going to get better on it’s own. Phases don’t last for 2+ years.
She’s bringing home work and no one else else at her place of work bring as much home - she’s avoiding having to deal with her home life by drowning herself in work.
She’s ignoring responsibilities around the house, pushing off whatever chores she can to you (like laundry, cleaning and picking up the kids) - also avoiding having to deal with home life.
She’s only engaging in the things that make her happy like church, volunteering, etc - again, avoiding home life.
I did all the same things before I filed for divorce.
Get counseling or prepare for divorce.
It’s not going to get better on it’s own. Phases don’t last for 2+ years.
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