re: Wife makes plans without consulting me

You sound like a pussy.

My ex started doing that when SHE realized we were headed for divorce. My advice is not to go with the only reason being you had plans to relax . I’m pretty much a duffus and didn’t realize anything till she was packing up. I’d consult an attorney asap.

If he looks at divorce before looking at growing a set of nuts, he's toast as a man.

You always tell me when you’re making plans

I hope so. I’d hate to be blindsided

I’m not reading through the entire six pages if anyone has and would be kind enough to share if there has been a resolution to Warmouth marital problems I will be grateful

THANK YOU and that’s awful

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This is not healthy or acceptable.

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Maybe in some way he gets a sort of satisfaction from it, like subconsciously

Yes and in which case it is actually GOOD that his wife mistreats him as she does

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wife and I got into an argument last night and haven't spoken a word or even been in the same room for 26 hours now.

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Rookie numbers.

Mine does the same shite, but after 20 years she knows if it’s not something I would be interested in, there is about a 90% chance I’m not going. She also learned if she wants me to go, she needs to start telling me about it a week or two in advance and doing whatever is required to get me to go. I don’t care if she made the plans with or without me, unless it’s some major financial or life changing decision, she or I can make our own plans. But at the same time, I’m not a little girl. I’m not making “plans” all the time for shite. 95% of the time I’m glad she handles most of our social calendar / does not bother me with planning stupid shite she knows I won’t attend. Boundaries and expectations were set years ago on this particular subject. Don’t know how long you have been married, but the sooner you get the boundaries and expectations set the happier/less divorced you will be.