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re: Why is it a faux pas to inquire about cause of death?
Posted on 4/14/14 at 2:46 pm to Y.A. Tittle
Posted on 4/14/14 at 2:46 pm to Y.A. Tittle
They said it was a car wreck, but it was in another country so it took a while for the truth to leak out.
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Posted on 4/14/14 at 2:48 pm to tigah0001
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how they did it, who found the body, are you sure it wasn't murder, where they on medication, etc.
I really think it's not people being disrespectful, but simply our morbid curiosity and a reflection about our own mortality. I agree though that asking those kinds of details are taking it too far.
Posted on 4/14/14 at 3:16 pm to PenguinNinja
Because it's painful to talk about how a loved one OD'd or got too drunk and wrecked to somebody like you barely knew them and wouldn't otherwise care about them, just because you're curious.
If it was a normal COD like an unimpaired car accident or a medical situation or even just some freak accident or act of violence then you would probably hear about it.
Sometimes people make it sound like a freak accident though to cover up the real details. For example, a kid from a rival high school passed away and it was reported that he drowned in the family pool. In reality he has huffing paint while sitting next to the pool, his heart gave out and he fell into the pool where he was found floating.
If it was a normal COD like an unimpaired car accident or a medical situation or even just some freak accident or act of violence then you would probably hear about it.
Sometimes people make it sound like a freak accident though to cover up the real details. For example, a kid from a rival high school passed away and it was reported that he drowned in the family pool. In reality he has huffing paint while sitting next to the pool, his heart gave out and he fell into the pool where he was found floating.
Posted on 4/14/14 at 3:19 pm to boom roasted
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Because it's none of your damn business.
Posted on 4/14/14 at 3:24 pm to BowlJackson
Why would you want to air your family's dirty laundry in the local newspaper just because it was unexpected and might be the result of something negative? Most obituaries don't list cause of death, period, even when it's a 90 year-old that obviously died of natural causes or a heart attack, etc.
A lot of times the obituary is published before the cause of death can be determined, especially in cases of drug overdose or anything else that would require toxicology and other lab reports. If you lose your child unexpectedly at a young age I'm sure you wouldn't immediately jump to the worst-case scenario before even getting a toxicology report back.
A lot of times the obituary is published before the cause of death can be determined, especially in cases of drug overdose or anything else that would require toxicology and other lab reports. If you lose your child unexpectedly at a young age I'm sure you wouldn't immediately jump to the worst-case scenario before even getting a toxicology report back.
Posted on 4/14/14 at 3:45 pm to Mr. Tom Morrow
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My opinion on suicide, which many probably disagree with, is that it should openly be discussed. Mental illness is really something serious and I can't understand why people refuse to talk about it. It's only after the person is gone, then suddenly regret sets in and people always question what if.
Exactly. That's my only point. Nothing is accomplished by covering it up and never talking about it. You talk about tragedy to get through it, you don't just bury it and let it fester. And maybe by talking about it, you prevent someone from going down that same path.
This post was edited on 4/14/14 at 3:46 pm
Posted on 4/14/14 at 3:59 pm to Goldrush25
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Nothing is accomplished by covering it up and never talking about it.
I think people do talk about it, but mainly with family and close friends. Also therapists, grief counselors, etc.
People probably don't want to talk about it with every person who finds out. Coworkers, people on FB who haven't spoken to you in years, general acquaintances, people like that. Those people aren't going to be there for you when you need someone to talk to or when you randomly break down. They are only asking out of curiosity.
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And maybe by talking about it, you prevent someone from going down that same path.
That is great if that happens. I have no issue talking with people about mental illness or my experience of losing a loved one because of it.
Telling someone the gory details doesn't really do much good. But that is what people ask about, the details most families do not want to share.
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