re: Why do people make a big deal about weddings ?

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As they say, "an invitation is not a summons".

There's even a handy 'decline' check box on the RSVP card given to you.

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Men understand this, it is women who don't.

LA Lady, please spread the word to your fellow womenfolk.

Weddings are beautiful. Two people surrender their independence and their lives to each other under God and become one together in a relationship for life. Jesus’s first miracle was at a wedding celebration and it is in a true loving marriage that we find an example of God’s love for us and it is the building block of society and the foundation for healthy child development.

But yeah in neoliberal modern western godless soulless narcissistic culture weddings make no sense because they’re all ceremony and no substance.

Much of our society has gutted and erased actual meaning and substance and we’re left with a weird empty shell of ceremonies we no longer understand.

Porn.
Civil Marriage.
Family.
Promiscuity.
Progressive Churches.
Holiday feasts.
The welfare state.
Lazy Sundays

Our very lives themselves have become all ceremony and no substance. And we’re caught in an angry endless feedback loop of denial as we desperately try to convince ourselves that we’re so much more special and unique and powerful and meaningful than we could ever hope to be.










Or maybe weddings are just dumb and some of us were randomly lucky enough to find a woman that hasn’t cheated yet.

Weddings invitations are wasted on the young. Went to a ton in my 20s and early 30s.

Only at the tail end of that run did it really dawn on me that weddings are truly a cherished moment in time. A chance to see a family in a truly intimate way. Society exists to serve a few functions, and one of those is to throw a wedding.