re: What is the biggest stress or burden you are carrying in your life?

No matter what happens, the sun will still rise in the morning and set in the evening. I find that to be a very comforting thought.

I also try to think throughout the day

"Am I better than I was yesterday?"

and

"I'm trying to be better tomorrow than I was today"

stress adds no value...so I don't allow for it

I'm a worrier by nature so I will stress over everything I can and it can totally consume me if I let it.



1)My FIL has been recently diagnosed with prostate cancer. I know the treatment/success rate is pretty high with that form of cancer but I still worry. Seeing the stress it's causing my husband only adds to my stress as well.

2)Dad was recently laid off after working 30 plus years for a small mom/pop tv business. My dad only collects social security now and my mom and mentally challenged brother and sister all work low paying part time jobs to help make ends meet. They say money doesn't buy happiness but man would it make things soooo much easier for my family.

3)Been thinking A LOT lately about what happens when my parents pass away. Me being the oldest and only child with a stable income...I would be the one to handle everything. What happens to my mentally challenged brother and sister? They would likely have to move and come live with me. What sucks is my parents are just not the type to talk about these things. At all. I need to have a conversation with them about if and what kind of preparation do they have for this....but find myself unable to get the words out whenever I talk to them.

4)Nervous about upcoming appointments/testing in regards to me having a child. If I find out I have the same type of disorder that my dad and 2 younger siblings have....it's a 50% chance that I would pass that on to a child. And with my age and all...those are not odds I would be willing to take. Could always adopt...but how realistic is that? It's very expensive and with it's own set of problems.




Thing is....most of these stressors....are things I have absolutely no control over and/or haven't even happened yet. So I try to remind myself that. That all I can do is have an idea of what I will do to deal with them when they actually do present themselves. And pray.... a lot.

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Once you accept that you are not running the show you will be able to relax more. People try to control everything...and we control nothing. Enjoy the ride.

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Yep. I've accepted this. Used to think I had to conquer everything, now I just work my way through the minefield and enjoy life as much as I can. I got off on stuff like occupational challenges once, but I don't need the stress at this point in life. Happy where I live, pretty peaceful existence and working to weed out as much stress as I can.

WTF am I going to do with my life!? Struggling in my classes, still technically a freshman in college. I've always been a C+ student. I graduated high school in 2012. My whole family went to college and I'm really feeling the pressure. It's making me resent everything. :csb:

Thanks Berg


In spite of all that....I do realize I have quite a lot to be grateful for. I try to remind myself that things could always be worse....and reading some of the other posts in here...I see that my worries pale in comparison to others.

Today at 3:30 I'm meeting my wife and son at his pediatrician to find out if what's going on with his lymph nodes is just due to him hitting puberty or is something else. I'm 99% sure it's just him hitting puberty (he's 12) but I'm not going to lie. Deep down inside I'm scared shitless. I've not even told my wife how scared I am. I've not even told anyone here why I've got to leave early today.

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Darth I hope everything goes ok at the pediatrician.

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I'm almost certain it's just me being paranoid. But thanks.

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I'm almost certain it's just me being paranoid.

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I'm very familiar with letting the worst case scenario "what ifs" consume you. You know you are being overly paranoid but still can't stop yourself.

I have two.

I think we have a really good crop, but you can never really be sure until harvest. So, that's making me nervous.

Also, the main one. I'm ready to settle down, get married, father a kid, go home, mix a drink, grill a steak for me and the wife, then have buzzed sex after we put the little one down, and all that good shite... I have no prospective female to fill this void at the moment.