re: What is the biggest stress or burden you are carrying in your life?

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this has been a good thread to read through all day and post in.. while its sad/depressing to see everyones pains/struggles/worries... its also a good thing to realize im not the only one going through things. I realized it can always be worse, there is someone else always worse off than you are. I think i get consumed in my own life so much i think that im the only ine having a problem... when in reality, everyone is fighting some sort of battle. Good post today op, and good job by everyone putting in good information and not turning this into a joke thread

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I think everyone should find some passion and go with it. Some folks it's family, some it's career and money, some it's an outside interest. I've got outdoors stuff that keeps me grounded and somewhat sane. I can take a boat ride to some hidden bay and realize no matter what happens, the world is alright.

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tired of being 'in transition

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This is my biggest burden.

I have a solid job and everything but I simply don't feel "settled". I get tired of things (my job, the city i live in) after a while and want to move on. I haven't bought a house or committed to anything long-term because of this.

I hope the feeling will change some day.

Trying to raise my son and give him the life he deserves. Teach him right from wrong, and how to be a good man.

He is only 2.5 but I worry about stupid shite already.

I've got a house for sale in a "used to be hot" area. Lots of competition. Both my wife and I have jobs 45 minutes away (better jobs that we didn't have when we bought current house) from where we work, where our friends are, and where we want to be.

We have watched house after house that we like in the new area sell. We've been on the market for close to a year.

We hired the hot shot realtor with the big boobs on the cover of the real estate success magazine and it still isn't moving. Only child starts kindergarten next year and we would really like to be settled into the new school district.

Our life is seemingly "in transition." This will be easier when we live closer to work. That will be easier in the new house. It will be more convenient to invite our friends over when they don't have to drive an hour and a half round trip to come have dinner on a Tuesday night.

My wife is border line depressed over it. Average in our neighborhood has been around 3 months. Like I said, we're coming up on a year.

Pales in comparison to deaths, illnesses, divorces, and important stuff, but it is stressing me out.

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I've got a house for sale in a "used to be hot" area. Lots of competition. Both my wife and I have jobs 45 minutes away (better jobs that we didn't have when we bought current house) from where we work, where our friends are, and where we want to be. We have watched house after house that we like in the new area sell. We've been on the market for close to a year. We hired the hot shot realtor with the big boobs on the cover of the real estate success magazine and it still isn't moving. Only child starts kindergarten next year and we would really like to be settled into the new school district. Our life is seemingly "in transition." This will be easier when we live closer to work. That will be easier in the new house. It will be more convenient to invite our friends over when they don't have to drive an hour and a half round trip to come have dinner on a Tuesday night. My wife is border line depressed over it. Average in our neighborhood has been around 3 months. Like I said, we're coming up on a year.

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I know perspective is everything here and pain is pain but damn, I wish we could trade problems

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I've got a house for sale in a "used to be hot" area. Lots of competition. Both my wife and I have jobs 45 minutes away (better jobs that we didn't have when we bought current house) from where we work, where our friends are, and where we want to be.

We have watched house after house that we like in the new area sell. We've been on the market for close to a year.

We hired the hot shot realtor with the big boobs on the cover of the real estate success magazine and it still isn't moving. Only child starts kindergarten next year and we would really like to be settled into the new school district.

Our life is seemingly "in transition." This will be easier when we live closer to work. That will be easier in the new house. It will be more convenient to invite our friends over when they don't have to drive an hour and a half round trip to come have dinner on a Tuesday night.

My wife is border line depressed over it. Average in our neighborhood has been around 3 months. Like I said, we're coming up on a year.

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Dude.....lower the price!

I get this feeling about not being "settled" as well. I feel like I can't truly start my life until I'm where I want to be economically and physicaly.

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If it sold for asking today, I'd take a $20k hit on a house I've been in for 8 years. It's hard to go much lower and be able to do anything in the new area.

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That sucks but it probably is your only option at this point.

About two years ago I had a bad accident and severely injured my leg. I was in the hospital for three months and after that I ended up living in a physical rehabilitation center to learn how to walk again. It was a very long road to recovery. The physical stress was nothing compared to the mental trauma because my closest friend died while I was in the hospital. She died from pancreatic cancer and we had lived together for 10 years.

A month ago, I felt okay enough to move to a new state in order to forget all the bad memories. I have a lot of guilt because I couldn't go to my friends funeral. I am very lonesome because I don't know a single person within 3 states. I worry about falling every time I stand up. I worry if I pushed myself too soon. I worry if I will ever feel normal again.

We both have full time jobs but my spouse won't ask for a raise for nothing and hasn't had one in 5 years when all the time I get bonuses and raises. Just gets me frustrated