re: Starting a trend where women wear wedding bands like men

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I don't know how long you've been perusing TD,

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Same amount of time as you, as evidenced by our Avi's.

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Head on over to TheKnot or even Reddit, and you'll see thousands of women with inexpensive rings.. or even no ring at all.

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And Im sure all of those women are HAPPY about that.

I listed an entire continent, not a country. There are plenty of people there that have a ton of money that don't wear diamonds. It was very much relevant to the conversation.

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And Im sure all of those women are HAPPY about that.

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Actually, yeah. I know that TD can become quite a bubble, but there are a lot of "DIY-hippie-feminist" types out there in the world. Saying that zero women in our culture would be okay with a small/non-diamond ring is a bit much. There are entire web communities built around the horrors of the diamond industry.

Now I'll agree that I'm sure at least 50% of those women wouldn't have turned down a big fancy ring. But I can assure you by their bragging posts and the words they use that they are perfectly happy with what they have.

In fact, the seemingly "normal" women that desire a nice wedding, nice ring, etc. are often shite all over on those websites.. which is a whole other topic that burns me up

EDIT: Hell, thinking about one of my best friends right now.. She and her husband are middle class folks. They got married when we were pretty young, so he got her a very tiny ring. But she loves that thing. She doesn't wear much jewelry.. is covered in tattoos.. etc. She isn't some liar wishing she had a massive ring. The ring she has suits her personality quite well, actually.

FWIW, I think a plain gold band is very classy.

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are you going to argue that the majority of the central and south American population does not live in relative poverty to the US?

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What in the world are you even talking about? I just said it was not a culture norm to wear diamonds like it is here. Plenty of people there can afford to wear them. It isn't some rare and precious stone that only a few can afford. I can get on craigslist right now and buy one for $300.

What exactly are you trying to argue?

I feel like my s.o.'s outlook on expensive jewelry and mine will be an eventual rift between us.

I feel like its ridiculous to spend a ton of money on something with no functionality, while her parents have regularly bought her David Yerman jewelry her whole life.

She told me that she had a nightmare when she woke up on Saturday morning. Her nightmare consisted of my getting her a 30 dollar engagement ring. She said that it was just horrible. It gave me really bad vibes that that is what she sees as a horrifying nightmare.

I feel like a couple should get to a point where the love is strong enough that expensive jewelry shouldn't really matter. I don't have any wild expectations about her buying me anything.

Look, I get it, women love that shite. But she has known from the beginning how feel about that kind of stuff, and she hasn't let it really bother her. However, I feel like when it comes down to it, her expectations for me in this regard(and other similar regards that I won't get into) are expectations that will never be met by me.

csb, I know.

Are you not aware that there are lots of people out there who never really know much wealth? These women are often just as "broke" as their husbands I'll agree with him that most upper-middle/upper class women insist on a traditional ring because of their upbringing and what they're used to.. but not his blanket statement that everyone in the United States does.

Try getting involved with an Indian girl (dot, not feather). I never stood a chance.

Yet like 10% of all smartphones sold in South America are Iphones that are over $1000 USD. But yet they can't afford a diamond ring at $300 for marriage. Keep arguing whatever you're trying to argue here.

They don't wear them because of culture, not lack of money.

Everyone is poor and eating rice there

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Are you not aware that there are lots of people out there who never really know much wealth?

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The only wealth I know is in my heart.

Woot. Woot.

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Yikes. She probably should have kept that story to herself. There is nothing wrong with wanting something that will actually last throughout the years without tarnishing or discoloring your finger. But calling the situation above a "nightmare" is a bit much.

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I was fairly obvious about my bad vibage towards her "nightmare."

The thing is, she really isn't that materialistic. She doesn't shop a whole lot, spend excessive amounts of money. She is in pharmacy school, so she will make a lot more money than I will down the road.

Its just that she has that institutionalized 'girl that comes from money' mindset about some things. Not all things. Its rarely a big enough deal to where we are at odds about our differing opinions. She knows how I am, and she has from the beginning of our relationship. and vice versa. We're still together, so my mind tells me that it isn't that big of a deal.

We both also tend to overthink things a great deal.