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re: Spinoff: single divorcees. Do you have a checklist?
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:11 pm to fr33manator
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:11 pm to fr33manator
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I don't have a list,
You shouldn't.
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...well, it takes a long jump to clear the next one.
Sounds like steeple chase to me, and I agree. If you click, you click.
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Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:12 pm to glassman
And I like clicking.
Heels especially
Heels especially
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:13 pm to fr33manator
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Essentially a fantasy.
I'm afraid you answered your own question here
. But seriously, having done this.......I married a woman who was a little older, had been married for 10 yrs, and had a son.
I was in my mid-20's way back when, in the mid-90's, and none of the people I knew were in similar situations. They were marrying their college girlfriends.
Nothing of my then-new situation was on my bucket list. But it happened. The term "cougar" was unheard of then, and she certainly was NOT one even by today's standards. And the woman was legit and had her own career, the relationship with the ex was civil, the kid was well-behaved. So that's 1/2 of the equation where I accept them. They also have to accept me. Being the stud that I am, well.....I'm not going to get into it.
But seriously, all of that mattered. Been married 18 yrs. And I can totally see how if any of the above isn't right for one or both parties, it's not gonna work.
Lots to think about for you re-partnering types....meaning you Fr33.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:13 pm to fr33manator
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clicking.
Refuse to not click. Has to be something there.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:17 pm to fr33manator
Only one must have really. He can love me all say long, but if he doesn't love my kids, I have no use for him.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:21 pm to fr33manator
Intelligent, Undergrad degree strongly encouraged, Grad. degree preferred.
Have some interests beyond celebrity bullshite. Be passionate about something. Anything. It doesn't have to be the same things I'm passionate about.
Religion ok, but not fanatical about it, and doesn't try to impose her beliefs on me. I'll return the favor.
Doesn't have to be a competitive athlete, but should take care of herself. Not overweight.
Kids or not, either way is fine, as long as she's not childless and eaten up with regret about it.
That's about it, really. My SO fits those criteria.
Have some interests beyond celebrity bullshite. Be passionate about something. Anything. It doesn't have to be the same things I'm passionate about.
Religion ok, but not fanatical about it, and doesn't try to impose her beliefs on me. I'll return the favor.
Doesn't have to be a competitive athlete, but should take care of herself. Not overweight.
Kids or not, either way is fine, as long as she's not childless and eaten up with regret about it.
That's about it, really. My SO fits those criteria.
This post was edited on 11/12/14 at 11:25 pm
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:21 pm to G Vice
I had a relationship with a cougar until recently. It was great. We clicked in every way. But I can't commit to that. I can't ask someone to be a mom only to my kids. That's not fair to them, to me, or to my kids real mom.
I don't bring women around my kids. It's not part of the deal. I'm okay, right now, having relationships that are half the time. I'm a bachelor for that period. A single dad the rest. My kids deserve all my attention and a man cannot serve two masters. Maybe when I/they get older I'll be able to get to a point where I'm looking for the whole package. Right now I need a part time gal who likes to enjoy life and live her own the rest of the time.
I don't bring women around my kids. It's not part of the deal. I'm okay, right now, having relationships that are half the time. I'm a bachelor for that period. A single dad the rest. My kids deserve all my attention and a man cannot serve two masters. Maybe when I/they get older I'll be able to get to a point where I'm looking for the whole package. Right now I need a part time gal who likes to enjoy life and live her own the rest of the time.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:22 pm to Jim Rockford
You have degree requirements for a potential SO.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:22 pm to glassman
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Refuse to not click. Has to be something there.
Damn straight. I'm still awake once the kids go to bed.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:26 pm to fr33manator
Authenticity and education. Their education doesn't have to match up with mine, but they probably need to be a college graduate with a two or four year degree.
Not interested in making more kids. Too old to go through having and raising another family. That said, the lady probably needs to have raised at least one kid, so we both know something about parenting (I don't care how old they are, you never stop being a parent). Some similar life experiences and some commonalities would be nice.
Being divorced, the other party probably needs to have gone through divorce as well - once, no more than twice. I have learned the hard way that dating a widow doesn't work well for me. While divorce and death are both loss situations and have some similar dynamics, they also have some very different dynamics as well. You can't compete against a ghost. I was in a brief relationship with a lady who had lost her husband to cancer. When she talked about "praying to him" about me, I decided it might be time to be moving on.
However, when all is said and done, I'll know it's a good match when I see it, and should I have the good fortune of having that day arrive again, whatever list might go out the window.
Not interested in making more kids. Too old to go through having and raising another family. That said, the lady probably needs to have raised at least one kid, so we both know something about parenting (I don't care how old they are, you never stop being a parent). Some similar life experiences and some commonalities would be nice.
Being divorced, the other party probably needs to have gone through divorce as well - once, no more than twice. I have learned the hard way that dating a widow doesn't work well for me. While divorce and death are both loss situations and have some similar dynamics, they also have some very different dynamics as well. You can't compete against a ghost. I was in a brief relationship with a lady who had lost her husband to cancer. When she talked about "praying to him" about me, I decided it might be time to be moving on.
However, when all is said and done, I'll know it's a good match when I see it, and should I have the good fortune of having that day arrive again, whatever list might go out the window.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:30 pm to damnedoldtigah
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When she talked about "praying to him" about me, I decided it might be time to be moving on.
Damn. Yeah, I think I'd mosey on too
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:31 pm to fr33manator
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Maybe when I/they get older I'll be able to get to a point where I'm looking for the whole package. Right now I need a part time gal who likes to enjoy life and live her own the rest of the time.
I hear what you are trying to do. But if things would work out, your kids would greatly benefit from the new woman if she is gonna be your legit new woman.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:32 pm to drunkenpunkin
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You have degree requirements for a potential SO.
TBH, one of the things that attracted me to my current SO is that she went to an Ivy League school
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:34 pm to Jim Rockford
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Damn. Yeah, I think I'd mosey on too
Oh, it got better. She told me that I was the one HE (dead guy) had delivered to her.
I was creeped out and vowed to not go that direction again.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:34 pm to damnedoldtigah
See, there's a part of me that wants to make more. I always wanted 4 kids. That was the plan. I love to two I have and the other part didn't work out but I wouldn't be opposed to finding someone incredible and giving it a chance.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:36 pm to fr33manator
Can speak English well, not embarrassing me in front of associates.
Pretty, with better than average body for age and great hygiene...cares about appearance.
Willing to have frequent sex.
No major baggage with kids, ex, etc.
Pretty, with better than average body for age and great hygiene...cares about appearance.
Willing to have frequent sex.
No major baggage with kids, ex, etc.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:37 pm to G Vice
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I hear what you are trying to do. But if things would work out, your kids would greatly benefit from the new woman if she is gonna be your legit new woman.
You think so? Maybe if it was some sound of Music kind of deal.
I love that movie. I sing Edelweiss to my kids. One of the few songs I can play on a guitar
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:45 pm to LSUandAU
What I've learned from this thread is there's going to be some lonely folks in this world.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:46 pm to fr33manator
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See, there's a part of me that wants to make more.
Given that I am going on 60, I enjoy the sex but really do not want to get up in the middle of the night to change diapers, do nightly feedings, or hear a bunch of crying and screaming all the time. Second, it's not fair to the kid to have that old of a father. Third, I don't want to do anything that would frick up my two kids' inheritance as I think they have both earned it in their own respective ways.
Posted on 11/12/14 at 11:48 pm to fr33manator
I'm not divorced, but I wouldn't marry a girl without a degree, already has kids, or a fatty.
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